#173 - Dealing With Judgment
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 18 November 2019
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
Feeling judged is difficult at any time, but as we lead up to the holidays, I begin to hear from many therapy and life coaching clients that feeling judged or criticized during family gatherings creates a ton of anxiety.
On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm diving deeply into this topic, in order to help you find strategies to stop feeling judged (while you're staying true to yourself and your values).
We'll discuss:
- Why it's so important to get clear about your values before heading into emotionally fraught situations with family and in-laws
- How to decide where to be flexible and where to hold firm in your interactions with others
- How to let go of your need for approval from others
- What to prioritize in order to help yourself make decisions and be less reactive
- The secret strategy to help yourself be okay… even when others are not
- How to practice compassion for self and others
All this, and more, on this episode of the podcast.
All the best,
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success |
| 0:07.7 | Podcast. |
| 0:10.3 | Our musical muse for today's show is a band called Trailer Bride, Trailer Bride, and they're |
| 0:17.1 | singing about a slow night at the strip club. |
| 0:23.3 | The song is called Claremont Hotel. |
| 0:31.4 | And I thought the song would be a great intro for our show today because today we're talking about judgment. |
| 0:34.1 | We're talking about how we ourselves cope with judgment from others and also how we can become more aware of our own judgments and use that self-awareness to improve our relationships and also to feel more peaceful, particularly as we're coming into this holiday season. |
| 0:57.5 | You know, every year I always get a lot of questions from listeners and also start talking to a lot of my clients, |
| 1:06.6 | you know, as a therapist and as a life coach, about the stress that they feel around the holidays. |
| 1:13.4 | And a lot of it is really at its core connected to this central idea of coming out of their |
| 1:22.8 | little bubble, you know, how we usually spend most of our lives interacting with our own friends, |
| 1:29.8 | conducting our lives as we see fit. And in the holiday season, we come out of that bubble. |
| 1:37.4 | And we are often spending a lot of time with our family or with people that we might not see a whole lot except for |
| 1:47.4 | those certain times of year. And, you know, the reality is that our family, extended family, |
| 1:56.5 | may have a different way of living than we do, right? And they're not the people that we choose to |
| 2:05.0 | have in our lives. They're our family. And so a lot of times we can get into situations that are |
| 2:11.8 | triggering for us because of this. So today on the show, we're going to be talking about how to handle |
| 2:19.9 | the experience of feeling judged and relatedly how to set boundaries with our families around |
| 2:31.0 | things that are really important to us, but also being able to conduct ourselves |
| 2:37.0 | in such a way that we are less triggered and anxious and upset when maybe people do have some |
| 2:46.0 | judgment about how we choose to live that's different from them and also that maybe we have about how they choose |
| 2:53.7 | to live so again i get a lot of questions about this topic at this time of year it's the the |
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