Maybe we're all in a simulation.

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Mike Mann and you're listening to no stupid questions.

Today on the show, are long-term relationships worth it?

Grow up, try to find your soulmate,

and your life will go to hell. Mike today I want to talk to you about a question that our producer raised in a conversation I was having with her recently, so do you want to know what's on Rebecca's

mind?

I do, I always want to know what's on Rebecca's mind.

So I was talking to Rebecca about this article that she came across.

It's from the annual review of clinical psychology, which is like kind of the

encyclopedia of research as it stands today and the title the article is pathology in

relationships and the most surprising thing I think in this review is that

there are data, you know, there are studies that suggest

that relationships can be triggers for psychopathology, like the opposite of what we've been taught.

Sorry, which means what? I don't know that I know what psychopathology means.

Okay, so psychopathology basically means mental health issues. So it's a very broad term, so it can mean

depression and it can mean anxiety but very broadly speaking psychopathology

means like anything that is pathological or not right about your

psychology. So it's like the analog to being sick in your body. So very

broadly speaking what this review wants to claim is that yeah

sometimes those intimate relationships that we have in our lives can be protective right they can

buffer us against stress and even catastrophe, but it

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