meta_pixel
Tapesearch Logo
Log in
The SelfWork Podcast

171 SelfWork: Breaking the Habit of Beating Yourself Up

The SelfWork Podcast

Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.81.3K Ratings

🗓️ 20 March 2020

⏱️ 22 minutes

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Today we’re going to cover how to begin to stop beating yourself up in a way that may surprise you a little. Because the behavior can seem as if you’re being extra careful or caring. But the habits of beating yourself up – the ways you maintain or fuel that self-doubt – can lead you further down the rabbit hole of shame and emotional paralysis. So let’s get started on “What can you do about it.’

And the listener email is from someone who was asking if I had time to talk with her individually – I wish I had time to do that! But we’ll talk about options for how to make the most out of at least what I have to offer… and some changes I’ve had to make due to the success (which I owe to you!) of SelfWork

Important Links:

Episode 113 on imposter syndrome

You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

And there’s a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

 

 

Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0

This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:13.0

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

0:19.0

and what to do about them.

0:20.0

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

0:30.0

Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:34.0

I'm a clinical psychologist.

0:35.4

I've practiced in Fayetteville, Arkansas since 1993,

0:38.8

moving here from the great state of Texas.

0:41.8

And I'm more than delighted that you're here.

0:44.0

First obviously I want to let everyone know that my major message concerning the

0:48.7

coronavirus is that if nothing is more apparent now than ever, it's that we're all in life together.

0:54.9

And caring for one another, whether it's about making sure someone who might be immunocompromised or just

1:00.3

older is okay, looking for ways to support your local medical teams,

1:05.5

looking for safe ways to help those that are going to be in big financial trouble,

1:09.5

whether with hunger or shelter issues arising,

1:13.0

they're all things we can give and be aware of.

1:17.0

And if you need something, now is the time to ask your friends and your support system for that help. If you're struggling with

1:24.1

mental illness, depression, anxiety, where you can tend to lose sight of what's rational

1:29.6

and allow the voice of your illness to convince you that dread and victimization need to govern your thinking.

1:36.0

Please realize that that thinking will only hurt you and people you love.

1:41.0

We need to help one another find courage and our resilience. And if you need

1:45.4

support of course, ask for it. Practice good self-care. Don't forget exercise.

...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.

Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.