Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.

My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.

Welcome back, babes. It's Friday! Our favorite day! And today, we're talking about something

really major. You guys ask about this almost every fucking day, so we're doing it. Is it your

intuition or your attachment wound? Or, as we like to say, is it anxiety,

you're a gut, whatever the fuck, however we were going to talk about it. We had Masha on episode four to talk about it. And so I think it's time to refresh the conversation. So we're going to get into all of it and what you could do and how to differentiate. And babies just know, I got you. As always, if you guys need anything, feel free. Sabrinasauer.com. You can work one-on-one, ask a question, join the course. We have got you, babes. It's a free guides. Feel free, go and download it. And as always, please don't forget, rate review the show. Leave a comment, even if it's just a heart. Leave a five-star review. Put it in your Facebook group. Share it with a friend. That's the only way I grow, Babes. We are doing this together, and I am so freaking grateful for you. So without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? We're back for another week, babes. And I take what you guys write in. As always, again, the Sabrina Zohar show on Instagram, if you want to be part of the conversation, you want to leave questions and comments and things like that for the episodes. But I really take a lot of what you guys ask and share, and that's how I create the episodes. And so please note, you guys are not alone. I can't tell you how many people say, I don't trust my gut, I don't know how to read it, how do I know if it's my intuition or not? And I think that's all really real. So we're going to go through all of that because that was a journey I kind of went through. And I'm going to give you some new studies and some data to kind of understand how your brain works in a little bit of a different way. But before we get started, guys, I hope that you guys loved the Sarah's All episode because now that I have found out, so guess what, I did a Dutch test because like I said, I'm updating you guys on what's happening in my life. I did a Dutch test and I found out that my free cortisol is frankly speaking fucked. And I then realized like, because Dr. Sarah and I were talking and Dr. Tori, who I work with and I were talking and kind of looking through and they're like, so this is the markers that we see with people with high depression. And the free cortisol that my body wasn't dumping is causing me to wake up in a panic, is causing me to feel dysregulated all day, is causing me to feel really sad and down and hyper-focused. And I knew that it was more. And that's why I say to you guys, like I hope you loved loved that episode. I want to evolve the conversation. It's not just, tell me about your mom and dad, and this person's doing this. It must be this. Like, there are other things at play. I am so fucking grateful that I found that out. Is it annoying? Yeah. Nobody wants to do a million tests. But I'm so happy because I was tired of being gaslit by people and telling me, oh, you're just, you just need an antidepressant. No, I don't. Some people do. I don't. That didn't work for me. I was even on a supplement and it gave me too much dopamine, which is why I was starting to, like, go on a spiral and loop. Because too much of a good thing is also not great for us. So guys, please don't underestimate your

health, please. And you know, that kind of even led me into, you know, I'll share a story. Is it

intuition to your, or your anxiety? And I think it's something that I really value and I think about

often because I don't ever want to pop off on somebody if it's not actually anything that they did,

but I also want to hold people accountable. And, you. And by the time I record this, or I'm recording it now, by the time this comes out, it's obviously a couple of weeks past this situation. But Ryan and I, the other night, like, we had a conversation that I wasn't sure if it was going to end the relationship or not. Not because anyone said anything or did anything, but because we were finally being really, really transparent

about the stuff that we have in our relationship. And so what does that even mean? And what I mean

by that was we were out to dinner and I made a comment and he said something back that was really

hurtful. He didn't even realize it. It was so innocent and it was so something that just like

passed right over his head.

And that's, in that moment, I had to look and say, is this my intuition or is this my anxiety?

And instead of reacting, I took space.

And that is the number one thing that I want everyone to fucking learn.

You don't owe anybody that response, that reaction, that immediate. You don't. The reason you take space is to give yourself a moment to come into your body and go like, okay, whoa, what's happening? And so when that happened, and I'm giving you the practice of this before we've even gone into it, so please listen to the rest. But typically speaking, what happens is so I could have gone and been like, what the fuck does that mean?

And start screaming. You don't even care about me. You don't even love me. But instead, I stopped. And I just said, wow, that really hurt. And I validated my experience. Just off the bat, that was really painful. That felt really shitty. That didn't feel great. And then I listened to my reality, my narrative and what I said the first thing I thought in my head was then why the fuck am I here?

And I had to stop and I really stopped and I said, Sab, what's the story? What's the narrative that you're creating? And I just tapped into my body. And this is while I'm sitting there. And I told Ryan, I said, just give me a second. You're allowed to do that, by the way. You're allowed to say, just give me a second. My brain, I couldn't even look at him. My brain was, I was scanning for safety constantly. I was looking everywhere just to be like, okay, I need to get away from the tiger. But really what it was was, no, no, no, I need to face it. I need to face this, because it's not mom or dad. This is my partner, and we deserve to have a conversation. And I stopped and I started noticing in my body that my chest was tightening.

And I was like, okay, what's happening there?

And I just said, I think I need to speak up because that's really hurtful.

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