Hello again and welcome to 4-play radio sex therapy. I'm your host certified

sex therapist Lori Watson, author of wanting sex again and blogger as

Psychology Today and WebMD and I have with me Dr. Adam Matthews

my co-host who's a couples therapist psychotherapist and president of

NCAMFT 4 Play is dedicated to helping couples keep it hot.

Thanks for listening now on to today's topic.

So we are talking about female sexual pursuers today,

or she wants it more. And I just have one question for you

What's that does she actually exist? This is big bigfoot log nest monster

aliens Bigfoot, Loch Ness Monster, aliens, things that we rarely see. This probably more than anything, we've had a lot of listeners write in and say, hey, you know,

I don't identify with this traditional split that you're talking about where he wants it more.

She's like, I want it more.

And girlfriend, I've heard you, I know you're out there, I know it's true. I know that the female sexual pursuer does exist and you know we

want to talk about like why she exists. What what makes her so special that somehow or another she feels more sexual desire?

And you know oftentimes of course the ones who come see me, the ones who are just out there with their partners, maybe just listening, not in therapy, you know, they're just happy.

Yeah. They're just happy all the time, right?

And their partners are happy.

Yeah, I've actually seen this a lot in my

practice as well, which is sometimes is sometimes surprising, but less so now.

In the beginning it surprised me, but they the come in and it's it is it's seemingly

reversed from traditional gender norms gender stereotypes so in your opinion why do you think this is? Why does some women continue to

want sex more than others?

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