Is it love or is it a trauma bond?

My name is Andrea and this is Adult Child.

Welcome back to Adult Child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in

a dysfunctional family.

I apologize for the delay, y'all.

I was on vacation, I tried to record down there, it sounded like shit.

I am always trying to have the best experience for your ears, so I'm back here in my closet

recording next to my cat's litter box.

So today we are diving deep into trauma bonding, which is a psychological response to abuse

in which a victim develops an unhealthy connection with their abuser.

Yes, super uplifting, as always, but I do think this is a really fascinating topic.

There is a lot to unpack here.

So today I just want to cover the basics and talk about why growing up in a dysfunctional

family puts us at a greater risk for finding ourselves in trauma bonds in adulthood, just

another wonderful perk of having a fucked up childhood, lucky us.

And then I am talking to writer poet Memoirist Alan Kaufman.

Now I love all of my interviews, but this one today I am really excited for you guys to

hear.

Alan's mother is a Holocaust survivor, and his relationship with his mother during his

childhood is truly a textbook example of a trauma bond between a parent and a child.

So stay tuned for that.

So here are some red flags that you are in a trauma bonded relationship.

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