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Episode 17. How do I get my kid to open up?

We survive Thanksgiving going into the holidays the next few weeks.

It's still, I still feel anxiety over what could be coming next, even though there's a lot of pressure off.

There is. And you know what I also feel? And I, every year I feel this way, I'm like, yay, the holidays,

it'll be so lovely and leisurely. And then I just feel like I get this whopping new to-do list,

you know, trying to make the holidays happen. And then I'm the kind of person that once I've got a to-do list, I can't really relax

till it's to done.

Completely.

Yeah.

And so it's always, I've got to stop.

I've got to make sure my expectations about holiday leisure are in line with reality.

And just expectations of life where we are right now.

There are some days where there are weekends where I've got a ton of stuff to do.

And I keep thinking about it, thinking about it, don't do anything.

And it got me thinking about kids in general of how they're processing everything as we're in this different phase.

And we had Jeff Selingo from talking to us about college admissions and how life is just changing for so many of them in so many ways.

You've told us about how to deal with kids when they're upset and when they're frustrated.

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