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The Sabrina Zohar Show

168: Why You Spiral When They Don’t Text Back

The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.94.8K Ratings

🗓️ 24 October 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down what your texting patterns reveal about your attachment style and emotional triggers in dating and relationships. Through her own past text exchanges, she shares how anxious thoughts, people-pleasing, and over-explaining once shaped her dating behavior, and how she learned to regulate her emotions instead of spiraling when someone didn’t respond. Sabrina explores how rejection, ghosting, and unmet expectations often trace back to deeper wounds around self-worth and safety.

She also explains how healing doesn’t mean never feeling triggered; it means recognizing those triggers, staying grounded, and choosing not to self-abandon. If texting still sends you into a loop, this episode will help you understand why and how to finally break the cycle.

Your brain can’t tell the difference between social rejection and getting punched in the face. That’s why when it takes them 3 hours to text back your chest hurts. Why that triple text makes you feel shaky and sweaty and like you just wanna throw your phone in the ocean. Your body is having a trauma response to the possibility of saying the wrong thing. If you want to break the pattern and start taking positive steps towards a life where what happens on your phone doesn’t dictate your life…

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Hot Babies, welcome back. It's Friday. And today, oh, we got a special episode, y'all. I'm going to tell you more about it, but we're just going to go and say, this is telling you what your texting pattern show about your dating and relationship patterns. And I'm going to give you so much personal experience, it's at nauseam.

0:24.0

Guys, as always, thank you. telling you what your texting patterns show about your dating and relationship patterns. And I'm

0:21.3

going to give you so much personal experience. It's at nauseam. Guys, as always, thank you for being here. Thank you guys for rating and reviewing the show, sharing it with your friends, putting it in group chats. All I ask is just please speak with kindness to each other for commenting and leaving reviews and things like we're here. You're allowed to say whatever you want. We just asked for the community to be a safe place for everybody to come to. And it's okay. Guys, as always, if you need anything,

0:41.1

link in bio. You can join a course. You could work one-on-one. You can ask a question or you can subscribe for ad-free. Some of you guys have issues with the ads, and that's totally fair. who likes him, I pay for cable and I still have ads.

0:52.2

But for four bucks a month, you can get the show ad free if you like.

0:55.1

And if not, thank you for supporting our I still have ads. But for four bucks a month, you can get the show

0:54.3

ad free if you like. And if not, thank you for supporting our sponsors who help us keep the show free for you guys. Guys, without further ado, let's get it right on into it, shall we? Okay, I have my phone out today. And you know why? Because this past a few weeks ago, the time this even comes out, Ryan and I went to New, and it was my first time bringing somebody back to New York in general, right? Like just bringing anybody romantic back. And I think there were so many moments in New York that I wished I had had somebody like Ryan with me. And so I was super stoked. I didn't shut the fuck up about this trip before we were going. And I got everything like for anybody who wants New York wrecks, I got you. Don't forget to go to Ivan Raman, go to Kikis for Greek, go to Supermoon bakery. There were just so many amazing places in Brooklyn and in the city that we were exploring. And it brought a lot of tears for me. I cried every few blocks at some points. I was going around

1:45.5

being like, Clem and I used to go here and Clem and I used to go there. And it was really weird for me because I was between the version that I'm becoming and the version that I was. And so I was there to see, holy smokes, dude, like, you really have grown a lot. Holy shit. And like at one point we were walking, because I was still live in

2:00.8

Williamsburg, and we were walking towards the hotel and I just beeline towards my old apartment.

2:05.2

I like didn't even realize it was just so conditioned in me. And for anyone watching, I'm wearing

2:10.0

my Clem shirt because I got it from the bar there. But I think that the reason that this trip was

2:14.8

so hard was because I think a part of me thought that I was going to go back and Clem would be there, that maybe I would wake up.

2:22.8

And this was all a dream. None of this happened and me and my baby are just sitting by the water together.

2:28.1

And it didn't happen, unfortunately. So instead, what I did was I celebrated the fuck out of him and I just told stories and I got a new

2:38.1

photo for anyone watching on YouTube right now. I got a new photo framed of me and him and I just

2:44.1

promised him I was going to make him proud. I promised that to him when he died. And so I hope if he's

2:50.6

watching right now that I've done that

2:52.0

and that I can help create safety for you guys in the same way that Clem helped create safety

2:57.9

for me. And I'll be honest, I've been struggling really hard. I've been struggling with friendships.

3:03.4

I've been struggling with just people in L.A., with connecting with people, with going back into my old core beliefs. Like, did I do something wrong? I don't get it. What's wrong with me? And that's the reason I share this is because you're so fucking human for experiencing these types of things. I'll give you an example because that's why. So today's episode, the reason I did it is when we were in New York, I was with my best friend, Raquel, and she's been with me since COVID, since before any of this, before I, when I was really just getting into doing the work. Like, I met her right after my ex and I had kind of like separated. And we were going over and she was like, dude, you were in your heyday fucking gnarly with the texting and all that. And I said, you know what? I'm going to

3:41.6

go through our chat and I'm going to pull all of the text to show you guys where I came from, what I used to do. And I put it in a little bit of trajectory. It starts with like the days where that weren't as great. And I don't even have those. Like that was amazing myself, but that was before we were screenshoting and sending each other texts. Like this was, you know, When I, my early 20s, like, texting wasn't that big.

3:58.7

We were still fucking going out and meeting people.

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