You're listening to 3 in 30 takeaways for Mom's episode 167.

How to accept when your partner doesn't speak your love language.

Welcome to 3 in 30, a podcast for moms who want to create more meaning in motherhood.

Each 30-minute episode will feature three doable takeaways for you to try at home with your

family this week. I'm your host Rachel Nielsen. Thank you so much for being here.

Do you and your partner speak the same love language? My husband Ryan and I do not.

I am a words of affirmation girl. I love them. I need them. Ryan, on the other hand, is a man of

very few words. He craves quality time. When we were dating, we were smitten and of course

went above and beyond to speak each other's love language. He wrote me love letters and I

relished in spending quality time with him on our date nights and every moment I could possibly

find. One of my fond memories from that time is going for nightly jogs together under the stars

of our college town. It was kind of a perfect balance for our needs because it was quality time

together to suit him, but he also had to do all the talking because I couldn't breathe while I was

trying to keep up with him. So he talked to me and filled my cup and I spent time with him and

filled his cup. I recently said to Ryan, I feel bad about how much I've changed since we got married.

You thought you were marrying a girl who was really active and into exercising with you and

that is not it all the way it's turned out. He thought about that for a few seconds and then he

shrugged and said, eh, it's okay. When we were dating, you thought I was good at words of affirmation

and when was the last time I wrote you a love letter. So it turns out that we both pulled the

bait and switch on each other. Can any of you relate to that? Marriage is so different from dating

and the ways that we speak love to our partner may change as we change and as our life responsibilities

change over the years. It can be easy to take each other for granted or to even start resenting

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