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The Sabrina Zohar Show

166: Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People | In The Trenches

The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.94.8K Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

In this powerful and emotional "In The Trenches" episode, Sabrina Zohar tackles your toughest dating dilemmas with her signature no-nonsense yet compassionate approach. We dive into a listener's story about a man who re-entered her life only to pull away once more, and Sabrina breaks down exactly why we chase "unfinished business" and emotionally unavailable partners. She also answers a question from a woman stuck in a 2-year relationship with a partner who shuts down during conflict, offering crucial advice on when to fight for a connection and when to choose yourself. Plus, we get a profile review for someone re-entering the dating scene later in life and hear from a listener experiencing panic attacks in a new, healthy relationship. Sabrina normalizes dating anxiety and provides tangible tools to self-soothe and expand your window of tolerance. If you're struggling with mixed signals, self-abandonment, or the fear that you'll never find a secure partner, this episode is your guide to breaking the cycle.

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0:00.0

Hello, hello, hello.

0:02.1

Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.

0:04.3

My name is Sabrina Zohart, and I am your host.

0:21.9

Hi, my babies. Welcome back to bonus episode. We're in the trenches. Few, view, makeup is on. Let's do it. We're going to get down to it. I got questions. I got maybe a profile we're going to get to. And I'm going to answer your shit. Now, don't forget, if you guys want me to answer your questions, email in the trenches

0:21.6

at Sabrinazoa.com, and we can feature you and help you guys. And guys, as always, please don't forget, rate, review the show, share it with a friend, leave a comment, whatever you guys need, and please speak with kindness. I read all the reviews, and I'm here to have a conversation with you guys, but we gotta speak with respect, so don't forget. All right, babies, without further ado, let's just get

0:37.7

right the fuck on into it, shall we?

0:39.3

Hi, friends.

0:39.9

Welcome back to another week.

0:41.2

Okay, I'm excited. I love doing in the trenches with you guys. I like answering questions. I like helping you guys in a different light and a different environment. So, as always, guys, like I said, email us in. I can only do this show if y'all email it. Now, if you want a private question answered,

0:54.5

you know, I got that too. Everything's at Sabrina Zohar.com. You can work one-on-one. You could I can't only do this show if y'all email it. Now, if you want a private question answered,

0:54.6

you know, I got that too. Everything's at Sabrina Zohar.com. You can work one-on-one. You could join the foundation course. And you guys are going to get the heads up that in two weeks a new masterclass is coming out. So you guys will hear about that soon. But I'm excited. So we got some newness y'all. I'm excited. I love growth. I love seeing where we can go. Where can we take the show?

1:12.7

And I'm just stoked and I'm so fucking grateful for you guys. So I'll give you if there's any updates on me. I've been struggling myself, y'all. I've been having this anxiety, even around friendships and texting. Like, this shit doesn't ever go away. You just learn how to live with it. You learn how to support yourself. You learn the tools. So I just wanted to clarify that. But like, I've had my own shit. I'm trying to figure out my health. I'm still trying to understand like what's coming up for me. And I share this so that you guys realize you're not alone. Again, just because I'm not in the dating world doesn't mean that these issues don't take place in other parts of your life. And a lot of the stuff you guys write in, like my

1:44.6

heart breaks when I read it because I was you. I was talking to my client this morning and I was like,

1:47.6

I know this narrative, I know this song and dance because I used to do it. I used to freak out. I used to hyperventilate. I used to hyper fixate. I used to be in that world. And I'm not saying that it ever just like poof goes away. But once you invest in yourself and you actually really

2:00.3

start to like show up for

2:01.6

yourself, I swear your life will change. Like my life is changing because of the people I'm meeting

2:06.1

and the people that I'm coming into contact with because of the person I'm becoming. Not because

2:10.8

anything has miraculously changed. So it's just a reminder to keep fucking going because without your

2:15.7

light gets really fucking dark out there in the world. And we need conversation. We need to talk. We need to express ourselves. So please know that this is a safe space. And I'm here for you guys. And like I said, if you need check it all out. And my last announcement before I get into questions. Y'all like to comment about the ads. I've never changed the ads. I've never changed the ad load. It has been the same since day one I started this podcast and started taking ads, and I actually have about 40% less ads than most shows. I get it if it's not ideal. Pay four bucks a month. You can get ad free. And if you don't like that, that's okay. This is a free resource. So you can also just not watch. But to say, too many ads, I don't like it. It's like, I get it. But this is also something that I'm doing with you guys.

2:53.4

And so I just hope that you understand. could also just not watch. But to say, too many ads, I don't like it. It's like, I get it. But

2:51.2

this is also something that I'm doing with you guys. And so I just hope that you understand that this is also a business. And that part of it is that these ads are really incredible. And I love our sponsors and I love our brand. So please support if you can. And if not, that's cool too. But if you want, you can subscribe at SabrinazoHur.com. Just want you guys to know it's an option if you need it.

3:07.7

All right, let's get in the trenches. Okay. Hey want you guys to know it's an option if you need it.

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