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The Sabrina Zohar Show

165: How to Break Your Unhealthy Dating & Relationship Patterns

The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.94.8K Ratings

🗓️ 10 October 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

In the last episode of the Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar unpacks the psychology and neuroscience behind why change feels so hard and how your brain is wired to keep you stuck. She explains the resistance mechanisms that make transformation uncomfortable and shares science-backed tools for creating real, lasting change. Sabrina dives into why motivation is a myth, why identity resists growth, and how small, consistent actions can rewire your self-concept. You’ll also learn about homeostasis, mirror neurons, and how your environment shapes your progress. If you’ve ever wondered why you know what to do but still can’t seem to do it, this episode will help you bridge the gap between awareness and action.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello, hello, hello.

0:02.0

Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.

0:04.0

My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.

0:07.0

Hi, babes, welcome back.

0:09.0

This is a very special episode.

0:11.0

We went through four episodes.

0:13.0

If you guys haven't already, go back and listen to the last four of understanding your patterns and everything.

0:18.0

And now we're going to break the cycle.

0:20.0

Now we're going to give you actual studies and tools on how do you break through and start to create lasting

0:25.2

change in your life? Because sure, all of these podcasts and therapy sessions and everything,

0:29.4

all these big kumbaya moments are beautiful for awareness. But then what the fuck do you do with it?

0:34.7

So stick around for the entire episode because we're giving you golden nuggets throughout. And guys, as always, if you need anything, please feel free. Everything's at Sabrina Zohar.com. Link in show notes if you need anything. And without further ado, let's get right the fuck on into it, shall we? Welcome back, babes. I am so excited. We're going to break the cycle today. Well, we're going to start, right? Because that doesn't mean that you do one thing once and all of a sudden, like, that's that. But what that does mean is that we are going to try our goddamn damnedest. And the reason I really wanted to kind of culminate with this episode, like first, I really wanted to do a self-worth series because I think so many of the questions you guys ask are very valid. And I think it's really

1:10.9

important for us to understand our patterns and different aspects of where did we learn this from, yada yada. But then what do you do with it? I remember my friend for years being like, you're self-aware, but what are you going to do with that? And it's like, well, it is the first step. Don't get me wrong. But we want to take it further to give you some actionable steps and tools. So guys, as always, don't forget to write and review the show. I'm trying to go

1:29.4

through shorter intro so we can get right on to actionable steps and tools. So guys, as always, don't forget to

1:28.1

write and review the show. I'm trying to go through shorter intro so we can get right onto the meat and potatoes and go on into it. But there is some housekeeping of please don't forget, rate, review the show if you haven't already. And if you have, thank you, thank you, but babies. And just thank you for being here. Like, I don't think you guys know when you share it with a friend, when you put in a Facebook group, like when you comment and even just like, hey, loved the episode or hey, would love an episode on this. Like there is legitimate like a little happy dance that I do, but there is an actual impact. And that is the only thing I ask from you guys is just thank you for being here and sticking around and listening. Thank you for sharing with your friends. and thank you for speaking with kindness because we are creating a community of safety. And that includes how we speak to each other. Like even on Insta, when someone comments something rude, like they're gone. That's it, especially to someone else. Because I don't have the patience. I was bullied all of my fucking life. I was constantly put down and made fun of and I don't have the patience for that because you want to break the fucking cycle, then we need to break that cycle with also what we allow in our lives, not just how we show up as well. So that's just the housekeeping, guys. If you need anything, of course, you could join the foundation course. We're going have new stuff coming out. Don't worry, sign up for the email list and you'll be kept up on that. All right, let's get into it. I don't really have too much personal stuff

2:34.9

to catch you guys up on because life is just fucking going, except I'm getting my last laser. By the time you guys see this, I'm already going to be post laser, so I'll let you guys know about the next stage of healing. But I am so excited I just got this new product and I'm so going to change my life, so I'll update you guys. I promise you. I'm going to use it first, and I will try it

2:51.1

before I let you know.

2:52.1

But we're doing everything we can to avoid the Botox.

2:54.8

Let's see how that goes.

3:06.3

All right. So we just spent the last four fucking episodes learning about your patterns, and you probably at this point feel like you have a PhD in your own dysfunction now. But knowledge without change is just expensive self-awareness, right? What are we doing with it?

3:07.4

I know, I get it.

3:08.2

Some of you guys are frustrated because you can see everything clearly, but you're still knowledge without change is just expensive self-awareness, right? What are we doing with it? And I know,

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