Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Rose podcast.

You know, one of the things that I didn't know I needed till I found it was feeling like

I wasn't broken in relationship that there wasn't something wrong with me.

That the way I related wasn't because of some dysfunction, but because I was afraid

of being too close to love or afraid of being too far from it or afraid of where love

would lead.

You know, when I finally understood that, that it was normal for humans to get anxious

when things are early in the dating process or why is it that when a woman told me she

cared about me, I did run or wanting to run and eventually stopped running.

But why did that come up for me?

And so you might be exploring, why do I do this in relationship?

Why am I prone to this?

Why am I reactive?

Why do I have a hard time staying in relationships?

Why do I blow them up?

Why you know all the things, right?

We're always wanting to postulate and understand and get to the core of it.

You know, it was when I ran into attachment theory that all of a sudden I had this way

of organizing and systemizing and recognizing how relationships work on this very simple

level, this very simple mechanism.

And it made me have this just sort of sigh of relief like, oh, there's a whole system

that describes what I do or what I'm prone to doing.

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