165 A Concise Explanation of Avoidant and Ambivalent Attachment

The Place We Find Ourselves

Adam Young

Hope, Christian, Christianity, Healing, Story, Trauma, Psychotherapy, Mental Health, Restoration, Heart, Sexualabuse, Health & Fitness, Adamyoung, Therapy, Attachment, Interpersonalneurobiology, Religion & Spirituality, Limbicsystem, Neuroscience

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🗓️ 2 December 2024

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

I dive into a detailed explanation of avoidant and ambivalent attachment. I explain why and how a child develops each of these insecure attachment styles. I then outline how you are supposed to know in adulthood if you have an avoidant or ambivalent attachment style. Your attachment style (secure, avoidant, or ambivalent) profoundly affects how you experience relationships and how you express yourself in relationship. And your attachment style develops based on your relationship with your primary caregivers.

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0:00.0	Before beginning today's episode, I want to invite you to join Dr. Kurt Thompson and myself on Saturday, January 4th, for an all-day Zoom conference titled Trauma and Your Nervous System, The Neuroscience of Healing.
0:17.1	This would be a brilliant way to begin 2025.
0:21.3	Kurt and I will explain the neurobiology behind trauma, and more importantly,
0:26.8	will explain how neural networks heal in your brain.
0:31.0	Please join us.
0:32.2	You can register at admiungcounselling.com.
0:36.0	Thanks and enjoy the podcast.
0:39.0	You are listening to The Place We Find Ourselves podcast.
0:42.5	I'm Adam Young, and today I am going to talk about two types of insecure attachment.
0:49.6	If the subject of attachment is new to you, please go back, way back to season one and listen
0:56.2	to episode five where I give an introduction to attachment science and I explain why attachment
1:03.7	is so important, particularly for people who have a history of trauma.
1:08.2	I am going to focus today on explaining avoidant attachment and
1:14.5	ambivalent attachment. But first, a brief introduction. Each of us is created in the image of a triune
1:22.9	God, a we and not an eye. You are created in the image of a we.
1:31.1	Perhaps a more helpful name for the Trinity is the relationship.
1:36.6	You and I are created in the image of the relationship.
1:42.4	Capital T, capital R, the relationship.
1:46.2	Now, what does this mean practically?
1:49.4	It means that you are built for connection with others.
1:55.8	It's hardwired into your very being.
1:59.1	Your brain and body are intended to be in deep connection with
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