This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines of the fascinating

worlds of entertainment, impairment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. Well, hello and welcome to this week's episode where I'm going to be

talking about how you can get over your ex and stop blaming yourself.

Many of you over the many years have written into me

saying that you just can't seem to get over

either the betrayal of a past relationship or believing that that person was the one that got away, basically, and that you're still thinking about it.

For some of you, it is most recent.

For others, it's been years.

For some people, it's been decades.

So I just figured I would take this episode

to give you some ideas of how you can move on, why you need to move on, and how to stop

blaming yourself and the other person as well.

So I can start this episode really with a question to you. Have you

been in this situation? Have you ever either been pining away for someone where

you are hoping they're going to change their mind, you hope

it's going to turn around, that perhaps there's some time in the future that you guys will

get back together, although you don't have any evidence that is pointing your life in that direction? Or do you have regrets that

you can't stop ruminating about or were you betrayed in some way and you can't stop ruminating about the betrayal.

Any of those things? Yes? If you are nodding your head yes, whether you're watching this or listening to it on the podcast.

Have no fear. This episode is for you. So let's start

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