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Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.

My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Hi, friends. Welcome back. Happy Friday. I'm so excited. We're back for part three of the five-part series. Remember, it was going to be four parts, then we made it five. Whoop-whoop. And so today I'm really excited because we talked about last week the stories you create, right? We had the core beliefs, then we went to the stories you create.

And today we're going into what causes you to create that, right? What's happening in your brain? What's going on? Catastrophizing, black and white thinking. Oh, I'm so excited. It's the meat and potatoes of a lot of the work that we talk about you guys. So these are really building blocks. And so if you haven't listened to all the episodes, feel free. You can go out of order, but they do kind of build on. So feel free to chuck it back a couple more and start to catch up. As guys, as always, thank you so much for everything, for always showing up authentically and allowing me to show up in my way as well. Please don't forget to rate and review the show, leave a comment. It doesn't matter, even if you just leave a heart on an episode. Let me know where you're fucking tuning in from. Give me some feedback. I am always here, always available. And just grateful. Thank you guys as always. And if you need anything, everything is link in bio. You can have a work with me one-on-one. Join a course. You can ask a question. Whatever you guys need, everything is there. And if not, thank you for just being here and listening along. All right, babies, without further ado, let's get right on

into it, show. Whatever you guys need, everything is there. And if not, thank you for just being here and listening along.

All right, babies. Without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? Oh, hi, friends. It's good to see you guys. Ugh, we have another Friday together. And I'm really loving the series, and I would love to know if you guys do too. And if you're like, get fucked, I don't care about them. That's cool too. But it's so funny, right before I came on, someone said, could you please do more things on being single? I don't even have a partner yet. So why would I listen? And I was like, oh, that's a bummer. I was like, because I was hoping that a lot of these episodes were going to get you ready for what's to come. And if you're in a relationship and you're like, man, I kind of want to date myself. I was hoping that maybe we'd go back to that too. But I'm hearing you. I'm listening. I hear you.

But I am trying to evolve, right?

And so I get it. If some of the episodes just aren't for you, that's okay.

But I do hope that you guys will love them regardless, even if it doesn't directly impact

you in that moment, that there's always so many nuggets and things that you can take away

and that you can come back to it when you're ready. So I'm stoked. And yeah, man, I actually just got my pre-newvo scans back. I had told you guys about that on the bonus episode. And I'm so incredibly relieved. My brain scan showed nothing. And I could take a huge sigh of relief because my mama and my dad both have aneurysms and I was fucking freaking out. And they found like a small little fibroid and a cyst. And they had found, they found my scoliosis, which I've known about since I was a kid. And so I'm just so grateful. And it was such an amazing experience. Guys, I cannot recommend this enough. I will link everything in the show notes just if you guys want to check them out. This isn't sponsored. I'm just sharing some really, really great information and some life-saving shit, you know, because it's true with my mama, like, I'm so grateful we found out, but it would have been too late if one of them had ruptured. And it really put that whole experience, God, talk about putting things into perspective. I think back on that time, I'm going off on tangents, but welcome to the show. I go back on that time and, oh my God, did I ever, wait a minute, before we get started with this episode, did I ever tell you about prison bay? Oh my God, did I ever tell you guys about prison bay? So, so this just bleeds into all the stuff we're going to talk about in the episode. What, when I, when my mama got sick and I kind of lost my shit, I was in a very unhealthy place. It was really volatile. It was yelling a lot. I was screaming. I was getting angry. Like I remember once I forgot something at home and I was like screaming at my mom and like she did not deserve that. I was a fucking asshole to her. And I was down in Florida and because when my mama got sick, she couldn't be alone. And so we had to wait. She lived with my aunt who lives Florida, and she was in Miami at the hospital. So we were able to, like, have that there. And so I was

coming down and spending it, like, staying with her for like a month at a time. My friends were

staying with Klem. Like, I didn't know what was going to happen. And I was the only one. I was single. I didn't have anything so I could come down. And I was on Instagram and I was I was really

escaping. I was trying to find escapism in this time and I was on Instagram and I was I was really escaping. I was trying to find escapism in this time.

And I was on Instagram and I saw this really hot guy. It was like another, like it was a model and like a brand had tagged him. And I went to his profile and I was like, holy fuck this guy is so hot. He was like exactly my type like six four tattoos like bulging. I mean the body of a fucking male Adonis tattooed, like neck down. That's such a kryptonite for me. And big blue eyes, dark brown hair. Like, this guy was chiseled. Like, even to the, my friend saw him. They were like, holy shit. Like, he was smoking. And so I shot my shot. I messaged him. And I DMed him. And he messaged back. And we started chatting. And all of a And I was like, oh, my God, we're texting morning, noon, and night and we're doing all that. And like, I finally was just like, so where do you live? And he was like, I live in California. And I was like, oh, the time I was in New York. And I was like, what do you do? And he was like, what do you do? And I was like, what are you doing? And I was like, oh, blue collar. And I was like, okay, you're a firefighter cop or something. I don't know. And then one night and then finally he was like, oh, do you not know? And I was like, what are you talking about? And he was like, oh, did you not see the photo? And I totally missed the photo of him in full orange, like a prison outfit. missed it. I didn't even see it. At this point, we'd been talking for days. I was just needed the attention. I need the escape. Like I was just so unhealthy in this time where I was like, I just need any attention. I need somebody like something to look forward to, a fantasy to look forward to. And needless to say, that went on for like a couple more weeks. And we talk, we talk all this like during the summer like while my mom was going through everything. And, you know, he was like in the prison camp and eventually got out and we never met.

No worry. But I remember, I mean, talk about black and white thinking. Talk about these ridiculous

fucking idealizations and fantasies that I'd built about this person. And really what it was about was

like, he was just satisfying a fantasy for me. He was helping me escape from the

pain and the sadness that I was in. And I hope that that story can exemplify what I'll think a lot of us do and we don't even maybe realize it is because when we're sometimes struggling or in a blow time or a bad time, we'll seek the external and we try to escape. And today we're going to bring it back. I'm sorry, I just had to give the prison base story, and I hope you guys enjoyed it.

I will die.

You know me. We'll seek the external and we try to escape. And today we're going to bring it back. I'm sorry, I just had to give the prison-based story and I hope you guys enjoyed it.

I will die.

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