Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. When I was in college, one of my cousins who was a little bit older than me had started her family. She had a new baby and things were really going well for her. She was very happy

and really enjoying life. Then one day she wasn't feeling well, so she went to the doctor

and they discovered that she had cancer permeating her body and within

a few short months she had passed.

I remember my grandmother who I was living with at the time why I was going to college

shared with me that the loss of her granddaughter was probably one of the greatest losses she had ever had,

even though she had lost her parents and her husband when she was younger.

It was just so unexpected, it seemed so unfair.

My goal, my purpose in life over the past 30 years has been to help people find happiness.

And because I do things like this, create the happiness podcasts, I've written 13 books, I read a blog for psychology today,

I do hear back from people about their lives and how things are going and often which I so appreciate I hear all

their lives are getting better and they're learning and they're growing but I also

hear the pain the pain of how life is unfair, and how can we Dr. Puff be happy,

when life is so unfair at times.

So in today's podcast, I want to explore that very complicated yet essential part of life, fairness, and see how we can find happiness, even with life being

unfair at times.

What to start with, in order to find happiness, we do need to be truthful.

And the truthfulness of life is, is that life doesn't always go in seemingly logical patterns in ways it

seem fair. It's like again someone like my cousin who is so young at a

brand new child.

And yet we all know people who are almost on the fringe of being psychopathic,

where they just want to hurt other people throughout their lives?

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