Welcome to the simple Sophisticate Podcast, where intelligent living is paired with signature style.

I'm your host, Shannon Ables.

And whether you're listening on your commute, exercising, working in the garden, or sitting down with a hot cup of tea or a

cafe ole, thank you for tuning in. Let's get started. If you're going me you are someone who has set goals for their life set one year five year maybe even 10 even further out the future goals

of what you want your life to look like in fact I've talked about this quite a bit on the

blog about the gift or the benefit of knowing where we want to go with our lives

as that kind of gives us a road map in order so that we don't meander and get off track.

And then once we do set these goals, we assess ourselves along the way, which is what I usually do. And if we make them, it's fantastic. If we make them before we expect it to, it's even more amazing.

But if we don't make these marks, meet these marks, whether they are in our career,

whether they are in our relationships, whether they are with anything that we long for because we

think that if that event occurs, if it materializes, we will feel more content. We will have achieved this somewhat elusive happiness that we're not feeling at the moment.

So when these don't happen in our timeline, we can doubt ourselves, we can lose a bit of confidence, we can

perhaps slow down our dreaming and think that we're not gonna make it, We're not worthy of that. And so while goals are a good thing,

today what I'd like to talk about are the six fixed life ideas that we need to let go of. Why do we need to let go of these six life

ideas? Because by letting this stuff go, we actually are opening ourselves to receiving that happiness that we seek in the first place.

It sounds contradictory, I know, I know it sounds very contradictory, but it actually is a paradox,

it actually is a truth. and what got me thinking about this was

that over the weekend one of my new favorite magazines arrived I don't know if

any of you guys have been subscribing to it or reading it but Porter magazine has been

well now bracing up the charts as being one of my favorite magazine. There are

fantastic articles in there the editorials and the style layouts are comparable to Vogue.

But there was one article that really struck me, and I've reread it a few times.

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