157: Eliminate These Toxic Relationship Patterns For A Happier Life

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 25 July 2018

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Research consistently found that it takes four positive comments to recover from one negative comment from a partner. That ratio means that criticism is a highly ineffective way of communicating in your relationship with your partner. In this episode, Dr. Julie Colwell teaches how to shift out of toxic relationship patterns such as reactive brain, blame and criticism and instead, show appreciation for our partner. Dr. Julie Colwell is a psychologist based in Boulder, CO. She has spent her career developing and refining methods for individuals, couples, families, groups, and organizations to shift out of energy-draining power struggles into reconnection, innovation and flow. Her methods are clear, research-based and powerful. Dr. Colwell also hosts workshops and classes and is the author of the bestseller, The Relationship Skills Workbook and The Relationship Ride. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/157 If you're looking to create more passion, improve communication, deepen your intimacy and connection and start having fun again with your partner, then we hope you check out our new online course, Spark My Relationship. Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our FREE 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to build trust back into your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Haven Life Term life insurance is the easiest, most cost-effective way to cover your family for the years they’ll need it most. To get your free quote with Haven Life by visiting https://welcome.havenlife.com/ido P.volve P.volve’s streaming service offers a large library of videos, including structured workout plans and new videos updated weekly. Users can stream to sculpt, tone and define anytime, anywhere from any device! Interested in trying the P.Ball? To buy a P.Ball and receive 2 months of free streaming, visit Pvolve.com/ido and enter ido at checkout. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	And Take me to the place in the middle of the sun.
0:17.0	Take me to the place in the middle of the sun. What's going on on guys?
0:28.0	What's going on guys?
0:30.0	Hi guys, welcome to today's show.
0:32.0	We have kind of a unique show today in that it is a
0:37.7	module from our course that we launched last week. It's actually a lesson
0:42.4	a lesson.
0:42.7	A lesson module.
0:44.5	A lesson from the course, from the Spark My Relationship
0:49.9	Course, and it's with Dr. Julie Colwell.
0:53.4	So we took the audio from a video with her
0:56.4	where we talk about how to shift out of a toxic relationship
1:00.9	pattern and switch from a reactive brain that's often associated with
1:06.2	blame and criticism and instead show appreciation for our partner.
1:11.6	And this is the really the first lesson of the course and it's so important it kind of shapes what you need to get out of in terms of your toxic behaviors to really have a
1:24.7	get out of in terms of your toxic behaviors to really have a successful
1:25.9	relationship and then success through the course because if you are trying to
1:31.1	improve without getting rid of those bad habits that you're doing
1:34.5	it's going to get stuck. It's a good place to start so we're giving it to you guys
1:38.6	our listeners for free obviously and just to give you a preview of what the course is all about and the
1:46.0	value and it's just something that even though it's Sarah said it's like a baseline thing
1:51.9	it's something we always got to work on. I know I
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