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The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

155: What to do if He Doesn't Want You Anymore and it Hurts

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

Trustedrelationshipexpert, Narcissism, Verbalabuse, Fixingmarriages, Relationships, Feelinglonely, Relationshipexpert, Alcoholabuse, Self-improvement, Angerissues, Intimacyskills, Midlifecrisis, Affairs, Fixingrelationship, Exhausted, Desired, Society & Culture, Special, Physicalabuse, Empoweredwife, Passionaterelationship, Playfulrelationship, Empoweredwives, Education, Unloved, Relationshipadvice

4.8 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 8 November 2022

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

If he doesn't want you anymore, it does hurt—really bad. Whether his actions are speaking louder than words and he’s too busy to spend time with you or he’s saying he doesn’t want you or making plans to leave or has already left, it can give you the excruciating impression that you’re unlovable. And there’s no lonelier feeling than that. Well-meaning friends can make it even worse by telling you to stop loving him or stop trying to make him love you. They might advise you to cut off all ties with him. Sure, you could do that. But what if that’s not what your heart is telling you to do? Maybe there’s a good reason you still love someone who doesn’t seem to be loving you back right now. While you may wish that things could go back to the way they were before, maybe there’s something even better waiting for you. At least, that’s what I see happen with students of the Six Intimacy Skills™ who use the Connection Framework. They’ve gone through this crushing experience of feeling completely rejected and unloved, and they come out the other side saying their marriage is better than ever. How can you do that too? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do if he doesn't want you anymore and it hurts.

Plus, my guest Rachel and her husband were fighting, fighting, fighting. It had become the norm at their house. She couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t try to heal their marriage. Then Rachel decided to experiment with all of the Intimacy Skills and after a long winter, her husband said something he hadn’t said in a very long time. Today, she says her 19-year marriage feels like a miracle and she is full of JOY! She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without your man's conscious effort

0:15.8

So you feel desired and taking care of and special even if your marriage feels completely hopeless.

0:23.5

I'm Laura Doyle, and today I'm talking about what to do if he doesn't want you anymore,

0:28.4

and it hurts.

0:31.1

My guest to Rachel and her husband were fighting, fighting, it was the norm at their house.

0:36.5

She couldn't understand why he wouldn't try to heal their marriage.

0:40.8

Then Rachel decided to experiment with all of the intimacy skills and then after a long winter her husband said something he hadn't said in a very long time.

0:52.0

Today she says her 19 year marriage feels like a miracle. She's full of joy. So she's going to tell

0:59.6

us what she did so you can do it too.

1:03.7

All that's coming up but first let's talk about what to do

1:06.7

if he doesn't want you anymore and it hurts.

1:10.5

Because it does hurt really bad.

1:13.0

Whatever his actions are, they are speaking louder than his words.

1:18.0

And if he's too busy to spend time with you,

1:21.0

or if he's saying he doesn't want you and making plans to leave you or has already left,

1:27.4

it can leave you with the excruciating impression that you're unlovable and there's no

1:35.2

lonelier feeling than that. And well-meaning friends can make it even worse

1:41.1

by telling you to stop loving him or to stop trying to make him love you.

1:47.1

You'll hear things like, then he doesn't deserve you, you'll find someone better.

1:52.4

They might advise you to cut off all ties with him.

1:56.7

And sure you could do that. You could become defensive and focus all your energy and

2:02.4

walking away and starting again.

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