One of the most insidious forms of child neglect is a parent who's not pursuing their own dreams

and potential. And then you start projecting those limiting thoughts and beliefs onto your children

unknowingly. Slowly but surely it leaks out of you. And you start shrinking what life is,

what their potential is. And you install these belief systems in your kids because most things your

kids will get from you are caught

not taught they catch it and if they catch the fact if you're raising a child right now and you know

in your heart i'm not pursuing my vision i'm not pursuing my potential i'm not all over my dream

you're neglecting your children when you do that the second chapter of the book on the power Power of One More, is about identity. And I talk about what your identity isn't. I made the mistake like a lot of people do. My identity was linked to what I did or what I achieved. If it's contingent on that, you're setting yourself up for a big bunch of failure instead of who you are. And this self-confidence thing, the truth is, it's an internal game.

I give like a bunch of tips in the book on self-confidence, but one of them is you've got to keep the promises you make to yourself. That's baseline. Self-confidence is a reputation with oneself. And if you don't have confidence, because you don't have a good reputation with you. Because I don't naturally have any self-confidence. I wasn't raised feeling great about myself. and that's where I came up with the power of one more.

What if not only did I keep the promises I made to myself, but I always did one more. I'm going to make 10 contacts set of now I make one more. I'm going to tell my daughter I love her today. Nope, I'm going to do it one more. I'm going to go to the gym and do a set of 10. I'm doing 30 minutes on the treadmill. Nope, I'm doing one more And you start stacking up these one mores in your life, you become a different human being over time. You are much closer, and you've proven this, you are the transitions you've made. You are much closer to your dream than you think you are. And because you think it's far away, you have a depth perception, you're not a vision issue, it's depth perception. You think it's so far away, you behave like it, and you don't see the things around you. Here's the truth. You're one decision away from a different life. One relationship, one meeting, one thought, one podcast, one emotion, one book away from a different life. I have a chapter in the book called Busting Open the Pignata. the magic of compound pounding, which is what you're saying. You're making invisible progress most of the time, but you don't know it. And so it occurred to me, I'm at this five-year-old's birthday party. They're hitting this pinata of the kids. First kid pounds the Penaata, no candy comes out. Second kid hits it, no candy comes out. Third kid, no candy comes out. Now some of the kids are starting to quit and get disinterested. About the sixth kid gets up, hits it one time. Bam, all the candy comes out, everybody celebrates. That's how life is. You're making invisible progress. They were breaking down. The last hit didn't break the piñata. The cumulative hits broke the pinata, but most people won't stick

around long enough for whatever the proverbial candy is, the relationship, the body, the

money, the business. As they're making these compound pounds, you're making progress. It's

just invisible over time. So there's a pinata analogy in our lives. We think it's going to

happen as quickly and it's so big. Just keep taking

swings. I know that sounds sort of like rah-rah. It's not. You're making progress invisibly. The truth is, when my dad got sober, I wrote one more because my dad tried one more time to get sober. When my dad got sober, I said, Daddy, are you going to stay sober the rest of your life? he goes, I don't know.

I'm going to stay sober for one more day.

And so if you're thinking about quitting whatever, Daddy, are you going to stay sober the rest of your life? He goes, I don't know. I'm going to stay sober for one more day.

And so if you're thinking about quitting whatever you're doing, just don't quit for one more day.

You don't have to make a lifetime commitment to something, right?

You can just not do it for one more day.

You know, a lot of people don't want to do what it takes to win.

They'd rather have fun.

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