Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Hi, babies. Welcome back, part four of the four part series. I could do math, part four of four. I'm so excited, babes. Today we're talking about the gold standard, the thing that we're all chasing after, secure attachment. And we're going to get into it. We're going to answer all your questions. We're going to go down the line. And I just want to thank you guys. As always,

thank you so much for supporting, for everyone with your kind words. We are here to build a community of love and support. And if you have something to say, we're here for it, just speak with some goddamn respect. And all I ask is, please, please, don't forget to rate and review the show. Leave a comment wherever you're listening, even if it's just a heart or an emoji.

It helps us so much more. And thank you guys. Thank you for showing up as you and allowing me to show up as me. So without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? Hi, babies. Let's talk about it. Secure attachment. Now, as always, guys, you know, I'm trying to get shorter intros because I want to keep us moving and grooving.

But as you guys know, if you need anything, I am taking clients one-on-one. You can join one of the courses. The courses are amazing. And they come with free group monthly coaching for every person that joins. And if you're not part of it, email us. We'll get you in the telegram group. But it's fucking amazing. and I am so grateful to have you guys and to be in the community. But I want to let you guys know if you want to ask a question, join the courses, get one of the free guides, ask a question, whatever you guys need. It's all there. And don't forget to send in your questions for in the trenches because we got to keep that going. But welcome to the new room, guys. We're really starting to move and groove. And I'm feeling, I don't know, I sometimes I now want to take a moment to like get a little personal because we go like right into like, let me educate you guys. And I'm like, but I also want to share a little bit about me. My journey with going towards being secure of like, you guys know, I was the poster child for the anxious attachment version of a woman, right? And I really embodied that for

years and didn't actually believe that I could do anything and get better. And I think now where I'm

at as really feeling like I've earned the title of Earned Secure, which like we're going to get to

all of this. But I think the reality is as well as like, I still struggle. I still struggle all the time with my own

self-worth, with what comes up for me, like I was just on TikTok live. And it's like, and I get thrown into the manosphere, well, all of a sudden you get these fucking misogynistic trolls that just want to attack you because they don't like what they're hearing. And of course that impacts me. And then I have to stop and say, well, wait a minute. Is it impacting me because there's validity to what they're saying or is it impacting me because it's reaffirming my core belief

and it's actually hitting a wound that I've been trying to avoid this whole time?

And so I think it's really important as we evolve and as we kind of go on.

I also want to evolve with you guys.

Like I said, we're going to do more friendship episodes.

Like we're going to talk about colleagues.

We're going to talk about colleagues. We're going to talk about parents. We're going to talk about things outside of just dating and relationships because this stuff evolves in your life. But don't worry. We're still going to talk about dating and relationships. Duh. But I'm just grateful for you guys. I'm excited about what the future has. The book is coming out in a year from now. It's crazy. We're getting it done. And maybe a little over a year year but I'm just grateful for you guys I'm really

excited and I'm really I feel more like I'm finding myself and I think that's why I really am

excited about this episode is because I wanted to talk to you guys about like how do you find

that secure version of yourself and honestly I think most of the things that you guys know about

secure attachment is fucking wrong I do and it's not anybody's fault it's because of what we're taught and I think a of the things that you guys know about secure attachment is fucking wrong. I do.

And it's not anybody's fault. It's because of what we're taught. And I think a lot of people think

that secure people are like, zen. They never get triggered. They're like these unicorns who could

glide through relationships without a care of the world. They're like naturally chill. They're

emotionally stable. And they're just like this relationship royalty who

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