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Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Welcome back, my babies. Part three of the attachment theories. So we are going to talk today about the disorganized. Some people say the fearful avoidance. Some people call it disorganize, whatever the fuck you want to call it. We're going to talk about that today. The push-pull dynamic. Come on strong, leave quickly, the hot, the cold.

I got you, babies. and some people call it disorganized, whatever the fuck you want to call it. We're going to talk about that today. The push-pull dynamic.

Come on strong, leave quickly, the hot, the cold.

I got you, babies.

I am here for you, and I'm so excited. As always, guys, if you need anything, everything on link in show notes, you want to join a course, you want to work one-on-one, whatever you guys need is all there. And guys, please don't forget, rate review the show.

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Welcome back, friends. I'm excited. I love this series. I mean, as we know, yeah, the avoidant, yeah, the anxious. Now we're going to talk to sorganize, and the next week we'll be into the secure partnership, and we are going to round this out. And guys, feel free to comment in the comments. If you want a different series, if you want me to go more into something, if you had something that you're like, oh, my questions just weren't answered. I would love more.

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You don't want ad free. You don't have to pay for it. But if you do, great, it's an option. You want to join a court. Whatever it is, you have the options. But please, please, please, that's all I ask of you if you haven't already. Okay. So let's get into it. And I have dated my fair share of disorganized, fearful, whatever attachment, and it is a loop-de-lou. So we are going to talk about it all. But if you've ever thought, I want love more than anything, but the second someone gets close to you, I'll God, I want to run, then this fucking episode is going to be for you. Or if you've dated somebody who texts you, I love you at 2 a.m., then doesn't respond for three to five business days, then shows up at your door with fucking flowers, but then they go out, then you need to

hear this because that is a classic sign of disorganized. And if you've ever looked at your dating

history and thought, fuck, why do I keep choosing people who can't love me the way I want to be loved,

which is like very real and very serious.

We're about to get you some answers.

And I think the reality is what I'm seeing in your questions isn't just anxious attachment. And like I think a lot of us want to think that. And it's not just avoid an attachment. There is a lot of disorganized that's happening. and it's, truth be told, the most misunderstood of the attachment styles, the most painful, and the most hopeful pattern we're going to talk about. I have quite a few friends that are disorganized, and it's like its own kind of hell. But the reason I say hopeful is because once you understand fully what's actually happening in your nervous system and within your body, then everything actually does start to make sense. And when things start to make sense, you can finally start to heal them and then you start to feel safe and da-da-da-da-da-da. And it's the same as like when I talk about people and say, we do this out of safety. We do this to find safety. And people will be like, that's bullshit. That's a crack a shit. It's like, no, no, no, no. You're right. It's not an excuse. None of this is an

excuse for bad behavior, and none of this is an excuse to be like, oh, yeah, just act however

you want. But's not an excuse. None of this is an excuse for bad

behavior or none of this is an excuse to be like, oh, yeah, just act however you want. But it is an explanation, right? You guys asking all the time, why? Why do they do this? Why do they do this? And the reason I always kind of clap back and go, does the why matter? Is because you guys are asking that to avoid dealing with the uncomfortable pain and what's coming up for you. And it's okay, right? You're

human. We all do it.

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