1523: The Dark Side of Young Mormon Marriage - Chandler Roberson Pt. 2

Mormon Stories Podcast

Dr. John Dehlin

Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 21 December 2021

⏱️ 164 minutes

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Summary

Chandler Roberson was raised as a devout Mormon, and always wanted to be the best Mormon she could be. In her teenage years Chandler had a few abusive relationships with Mormon boys, where she felt forced to “repent” for “sins” she never committed. Her senior year Chandler felt pressured to break up with a non-LDS boy whom she genuinely loved, and to attend BYU-Idaho to follow the ideal Mormon path.

While at BYU-Idaho Chandler was sexually assaulted by her Family Home Evening “brother,” which led to her leaving BYU-Idaho early, ultimately attempting to serve an LDS mission with untreated PTSD (returning home early).

Chandler eventually became a nationally-known fashion blogger at “Days of Chandler.” Later, Chandler attempted two young LDS temple marriages, both of which ended in divorce. In her view, she was too young to attempt marriage, but felt intense pressure from LDS Church members to marry young.

This is Chandler’s story. Major themes include:

- Pressure to be a “good Mormon girl” (all on women’s shoulders)

- BYU-Idaho (dating/sexism, sexual assault problem at BYU schools)

- Fashion Blogging (similar pressure to be a certain way – inauthentic/beautiful)

- Personal impacts of being raised in the church ( codependency, sexual shame, etc)

- Pressure to get married (twice).

We are super grateful to have Samantha Shelley (Zelph on the Shelf) as co-host for this interview.

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0:00.0	Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Mormon Stories podcast. I'm your host, Dr. John Delin
0:04.9	It is November 10th 2021 and we are in part two of an amazing
0:10.3	inspiring tragic
0:12.3	heartfelt
0:13.3	Raw and inspiring interview with Chandler
0:17.4	Roberson, did I get it right? You got it right. Yeah, Chandler welcome back to Mormon Stories podcast
0:22.1	Thank you. How was lunch? It's fantastic. Left oversu she is good. Thanks dad
0:27.2	and for those of you who
0:30.3	Didn't join us for part one. We are so thrilled. We adore carabarelle. She is in like Flynn and
0:37.4	Sometimes we want to have other kind of like a bench of co-interviewers like Harado and we're so thrilled to have with us
0:45.1	The one the only Samantha Shelley from Zelf on the shelf as co-host today
0:51.2	I love the bench welcome. Thank you
0:53.6	For those who didn't hear the first part go back stop pause go back and listen to part one
0:59.9	It's really important
1:01.7	But it turns out that that Samantha and Chandler were both a BYU Idaho together in Rexburg, I know and so Samantha's like John
1:09.2	You got to interview Chandler and so I'm like I'm down and so Samantha. Thanks for
1:14.2	Being here and for bringing us this amazing interview
1:16.9	Mm-hmm anything you want to say to our audience?
1:19.3	No, just we're lucky to have John the head all right
1:24.5	Okay, so for part one we talked about a bunch of cool stuff
1:27.5	We talked about Chandler growing up in the Sacramento area as a Mormon
1:32.5	We talked about very problematic
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