Hello everyone from Mary old England, it's your pal Steven Hussie here just setting up today's episode

Which is gonna be Matthew talking about practical skills for flirting for introverts

If you like me are someone who finds yourself more comfortable in your own company or you naturally aren't the kind of person who wants to dive into a crowd

and be able to hold core and you know you find meeting someone you you have to kind of get yourself g'd up get your energy ready for it because you think okay here we go

I'm gonna have to talk to a new person here. I'm gonna have to be charming. Alright, let's do this that old first date thing

This is for you. It's gonna give you some really practical useful strategies for how to comfortably flirt and do it in a way that feels authentic to you

Not in a way where you have to fake it and put on some weird clothing that isn't you

I think people make two binary distinction between introverts and extroverts and they think oh I can't do that

I can't speak on stage because I'm an introvert but actually I've spent a lot of years you know

I was a shy shy kid and I used to not like talking to people

I'd be the little kid clinging onto my mum being like oh no, I don't want to go meet those new kids what you're doing to me and

over the years I

Learn how to be able to

Communicate in a way that felt authentic to me how to not fight that discomfort and just kind of lean into it and go from an

Angle of being more curious and just relax and okay

I'm just gonna relax and put myself out there and see what comes back or speaking on stage

I got used to those moments of discomfort where I don't fight them anymore and they might happen immediately when I walk into a party

And I think oh god, this is noisy and there's a lot of people here and okay, let's just do this

But once I'm in I can get into that relaxed energy

I can get into that place where I feel like I'm being me

I'm not having to fake it and be some loud person that I'm not but

Yeah, it's it's very very useful and on a first date people can often feel like they

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