Giving yourself grace is not the same thing as being permissive towards the things that are harmful for yourself or for others.

It's just giving yourself grace. I think we associate the two.

We associate giving ourselves a break, letting ourselves off the hook, and just having a moment, like a human moment, with quitting, failing, and lack of progress, because we don't trust ourselves to reroute.

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Hello, and welcome back to the self-love fix podcast. My name is Beatrice, and I am your host, and this week we are going to get into some tea.

We're going to talk about something I have heard a lot from clients and past students. Actually, every time I run a program or do a course, this happens.

Or this question comes up, this idea of being fully healed, and I say that in air quotes. It's like, I don't know where this concept came from.

I know that I thought this was a thing at one point where I have to continue working, quote unquote, working and working and working and working to better myself, and then eventually, one day, I'm going to be like perfect.

So perfect that I'll be good enough for a relationship and good enough to have healthy relationships and friendships with other people.

There's this misconception that you are broken or that there are an endless amount of problems with you, and you have to solve them, quote unquote, or resolve them before you can be worthy of anything.

Especially the relationship thing, by the way, I've heard this with students where it's like, I have to do this work or I joined this with you so that I can be healed enough for relationship.

And I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait. So what you're telling me is when you're quote unquote, good enough or perfect enough, then you're worthy of being loved.

And then that usually gets the response of wait, wait, no, I wasn't saying that, but I guess that's what I've been thinking or what I've been feeling.

It's like, yeah, because it's super unconscious.

So today, I really want to talk about the three mini myths underneath the myth of being fully healed and how to shift your perspective around them in a way that favors you and makes life a little bit better for you.

Because I think we put this insane amount of pressure on ourselves and we kind of go in circles and we really don't allow ourselves to be human and then we punish ourselves for being human.

So let's start with mini myth number one.

And by the way, all of these myths are things I've just heard from either people who listen to the podcast or my own clients or past students or past clients.

So I think you'll find this a little relatable to yourself. So the first one is if you go back to your quote unquote old behaviors, all your quote unquote work would have been for nothing or was for nothing.

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