145: There May Be No Someday

Midlife Conversations with Natalie Jill

Natalie Jill

Business, Entrepreneurship, Self-improvement, Education

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🗓️ 6 December 2019

⏱️ 5 minutes

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Summary

I've been spending a lot more time having fun. Like, belly laugh fun! More quality time with my husband Brooks, and my daughter.

You see, my dad at the age of 49 died instantly of a heart attack. He had the story of "someday". He would tell himself that some day he'd get healthy, someday he'd have more fun, some day he'd live his passion. For him, there was no "someday"

In this weeks fit for your mind Friday, I talk about how someday is NOW

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0:00.0	Welcome to Fit for Your Mind Friday, where I share an insight from me to you.
0:11.2	There may be no someday. Recently, I started really having some fun in my life, like belly laugh fun,
0:20.7	saying yes to more things with friends, more quality fun in my life, like belly laugh fun, saying yes to more things
0:22.1	with friends, more quality time with my husband, more time with my daughter, more trips, more
0:27.7	experiences, cooking classes, just anything that would bring fun, joy connection, spending more
0:35.1	time walking at the beach, being out in nature, really anything that
0:39.9	would be fun. You see, the biggest thing that has come up for me in middle age is this idea of
0:45.8	truly living. Now, not just breathing, functioning, doing the do as living traditionally would be
0:53.9	looked at as, but I mean really living. You see,
0:58.4	I spent so much of my 20s, my 30s and my early 40s doing the do, like checking off the
1:05.2	to-do list, getting through things, getting by, chasing the next, the next, the next, and saying no to a lot,
1:14.7	but saying no to all of the fun. I said no to the fun, to the connection, to the times with friends
1:21.5	so I could do the responsible, like work. Work more, work more, work more. Well, here's what I want you to know. That's not living.
1:32.6	That's just preparing to die. You see, my dad, when he was just 49 years old, just one year older than I am right now as I record this for you.
1:48.1	At 49 years old, it wasn't a long drawn-out illness where I got to say his goodbyes or he got to reflect, but he had a heart
1:53.5	attack and he died. Literally one minute here, the next minute, poof, gone, dead of a heart attack.
2:03.2	One minute he was here breathing, hustling, working like crazy for some day, as he would say,
2:09.2	and the next minute, poof, gone, forever.
2:15.0	Now I was 22 at the time, and I didn't understand this message that I'm sharing
2:18.5	with you now until years later, like really years later till like right now. But at 48, I can
2:24.6	tell you I think of this often. I mean, my dad was only one year older than me. And my dad,
2:31.7	he was like so many of you listening to this.
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