cheating itself is about lying to the person that you're with and breaking in agreement.

It's not about the quantity of humans that you are having meaningful experiences of pleasure with.

True. Because in quote, straight monogamous world, not even straight, just monogamous world. Let's say that. There's always this thing of while you're dating the conversation of when are we exclusive? When are we not seeing other people, sleeping

other people? And, you know, New York City life is like, until you have that conversation,

you essentially assume they are. Right. And like, there's no way for you to know until the person

says to you, hey, this is just me and you now. And you get that agreement. And that's one of the things that I love about non-monogamy is that you have that

conversation on your first date.

On your very, very first date, it's like, what, what are we looking for here?

Yeah.

Because there's no, you, like, for example, I don't, I have three primary partners.

I do not want another primary partner

right i do not want someone to move in with us i don't want to raise kids with anyone else

so if someone is looking for a primary partner i am not the person that conversation needs to

happen either before the first date or on the first date.

What's up, everybody? Welcome back to Shooters Got to Shoot. I am your host, Erica Spira. And we have a repeat guest for you guys this week. One of our favorites, one of our most interesting episodes, we have Rachel Wright on the show. If you did not hear our first episode with her, please check it out. It's very interesting.

We talked to her all about being polyamorous slash ethically non-monogamous, what all that means,

how her partner started opening up their relationship, and things like that. It's episode

number 89. Check that out. It was back when Molly was on the show with me.

We had a great time talking to Rachel. She was, she is very interesting and also her lifestyle

is very interesting, right? Especially, you know, I'm a monogamous person. Most people we have on

the show are monogamous. So, hey, if you have any ethically non-monogamous friends or people you know that have thought about opening up their relationship, these are the two episodes for you.

So episode number 89 and our episode today, not only is Rachel on the podcast, but when she showed up to record, she had one of her partners with her.

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