145: How to let go of seeking external validation and actually find your person

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 13 June 2025

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Struggling with people-pleasing or feeling anxious about how others perceive you? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into how to let go of external validation and truly thrive while single. Whether you’re navigating dating, healing from past relationships, or simply want to build stronger self-worth, this video is packed with actionable tools, neuroscience insights, and real-life stories that will help you break free from approval-seeking and self-abandonment.

What you’ll learn:
- Why we crave external validation (hint: it’s not vanity, it’s survival)
- How your childhood and nervous system shape your relationship patterns
- Practical exercises like the Validation Tracker and Self-Validation First Tool
- How to stop disappearing in dating and start showing up authentically
- Steps to attract healthy, secure love from a place of wholeness, not wounds

Sabrina shares her own journey, from overperforming and people-pleasing to building a life—and relationships—rooted in self-love and authenticity. If you’re tired of chasing approval and want to feel empowered, seen, and chosen by yourself first, this episode is for you.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello.
0:02.2	Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.
0:04.5	My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host.
0:07.3	Welcome back, my babes.
0:08.9	Our time alone, I love solo time.
0:11.7	Guys, today we're going to talk about how to let go of seeking external validation
0:14.7	and finally find your fucking person.
0:16.6	Yes, we have some relationship episodes, but this one today is from my single babes.
0:24.1	And honestly, if you're in a relationship and you want to learn how to let go over external validation,
0:29.7	fuck yeah, come on in. We'd love to have you. But I want to make sure I'm supporting everybody in the ways that you guys need.
0:32.9	And as always, if you need more, there are courses. You can join the foundation course,
0:37.6	which really helps to set up a solid foundation for, you know, seeking your partner and coming home to yourself. We've got the self-love course, which is new with Britt Frank. We have the breakup course with her and the
0:41.1	nervous system course with Masha, whatever you guys need. Everything will be linked in the show notes.
0:45.1	Some free guides. There's some fun stuff in the link. Whatever you guys need. And as always,
0:49.2	thank you for showing up. Thank you for sharing it with your friends. Thank you for reading and reviewing the show. I read them
0:54.4	all and it makes me just feel so overwhelmed with love that I'm able to support you guys and help in the
0:59.7	ways that you need. So please keep the questions coming. Let us know what episodes you guys want to
1:03.4	see and just know I'm here for you guys. I love you guys. And now without further ado,
1:08.0	let's get right the fuck on into it, shall we? Hey, babes.
1:11.3	Welcome back.
1:12.3	So, it's pretty wild.
1:13.8	For anybody watching, this is our last solo episode in this studio.
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