145: Encore: My Kids Lose it When They Make Sports Mistakes. How Can I Help?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting

4.7 • 824 Ratings

🗓️ 21 November 2023

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Sports is not just about the final score. It’s an opportunity for kids to grow, to learn how to improve their skills, and to be a good teammate. But athletics today can be incredibly competitive, aggressive, and emotionally intense. Dr. Lisa offers strategies for when kids lose their cool when things don’t go their way and explains how to help kids manage their reactions when they make mistakes. Reena asks about how far you should push a kid who wants to quit a sport they’re good at and if we should encourage kids to stick with sports that don’t come naturally. Book recommendation: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, PhD ________________ Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Follow and subscribe to our new YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Rina Ninean and this is Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:10.7	It's a podcast to help parents better understand their kids. Dr. Lisa DeMore, a psychologist with three
0:17.2	decades of experience, and the author of three New York Times best-selling parenting
0:21.8	books takes your questions. Both of us are moms ourselves, and we're eager to hear from you.
0:27.1	So send us your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.LisaDemore.com. And you can join our community by
0:32.8	following us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. The handle is Ask Lisa Podcast. And also subscribe to our
0:39.7	brand new YouTube channel, Ask Lisa Podcast. Episode 145, an encore episode. My kids lose it when they make
0:46.9	sports mistakes. How can I help? Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. We've got a special
0:53.6	encore episode.
0:55.3	Sports isn't just about the final score.
0:57.2	It's a chance for kids to learn to work together as a team, to grow and to learn how to push through and get better at something.
1:04.4	In today's hyper-competitive world, Dr. Lisa offers strategies to help our athletes cope when the games get tough.
1:11.5	We'll discuss how to deal with aggressive competition and demanding parents,
1:15.5	because it's often not just the kids who feel the heat, it's the parents too.
1:19.8	How do you foster resilience and a healthy relationship with success and failure?
1:25.4	And should you continue to push a kid who's ready to throw in the towel
1:28.5	at a sport they don't excel at? We tackle all those questions next. So consider this a side dish
1:34.8	of wisdom before your turkey feast. Lisa and I wish all of you a very happy Thanksgiving.
1:42.2	You know, I remember when my son was like in preschool coming down and seeing him watch a YouTube
1:48.6	video of Tom Brady when he was in high school, Tom Brady in high school is not Tom Brady
1:54.9	today.
1:55.6	No.
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