144 SelfWork: Three Steps To Creating Motivation That Works
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 30 August 2019
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Getting motivated for change and maintaining that change can be tricky business. Willpower. Self-discipline. Focus. All are touted as necessary for achievement of your goals. But where does self-acceptance come into this? And what about understanding what's underneath the change you maybe want or need to make? I'll talk today about how motivation -- understanding why you're working toward certain goals and the importance of not depending on shame to move toward those goals, as it will only sabotage your attempts in the end.
The listener email is from someone who sought therapy in the past but hasn't as of yet had a successful experience. She's taking responsibility for some of that, but also finds that therapists tend to "meander" instead of coming up with specific goals and ways to get there.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, |
| 0:36.0 | and I've been podcasting for about three years. I've actually been in practice for over 25. |
| 0:41.0 | But I wanted to extend the walls of my practice to several groups, maybe those who were |
| 0:46.0 | already interested in psychological and emotional issues but would like to hear from another therapist, somebody who may just have been diagnosed with depression or |
| 0:55.4 | anxiety and are looking for answers. And then that third group, people who really don't |
| 1:00.4 | understand what therapy is and they think oh I'll never |
| 1:03.4 | darken the door of a therapist never but I think they might be curious enough to |
| 1:08.1 | listen to a podcast so welcome to any and all of you. |
| 1:12.7 | Today we're going to be talking about motivation. |
| 1:15.0 | A lot of times I hear people talk about wanting to make changes in their lives. |
| 1:22.2 | And of course I've had a very bird's eye view of my own sometimes feeble attempts at change. |
| 1:27.0 | So what makes some people better at changing than others? Is it procrastination? Is it willpower? Is that someone who struggles, does it have |
| 1:35.9 | what it takes or can't find their motivation? Sometimes I think we look for motivation in the wrong |
| 1:41.4 | place. |
| 1:42.8 | And that place is a place of shame, getting hung up with the idea with not being |
| 1:48.0 | self-disciplined. |
| 1:49.7 | So we'll talk about this dynamic today, and I'll suggest three steps to encourage yourself with those changes that may be a little bit harder. |
| 1:57.0 | And how not to let shame sabotage your attempts and moving in a direction that you want or perhaps even need. |
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