142 - When Gender Hits the Holidays Part 2
Gender: A Wider Lens
Sasha Ayad and Stella O'Malley
4.6 • 961 Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2023
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Sasha and Stella join forces for a “Part 2” episode about navigating family dynamics during the holidays for families with trans identified children or young adults. This conversation touches on the complexities of estrangement, handling relationships with trans-identified partners, the delicate balance between intervention and bonding, with a focus on managing emotions, setting boundaries, and fostering open conversations within the family.
Sasha and Stella carefully remind parents that conflict and distress can be part of the unfolding sense of character and personality development during adolescence. They also emphasize the importance of self-care when coping with holiday stress and giving space to be intense, but most importantly, practicing patience and self-forgiveness for both parents and children holiday pressures become overwhelming.
This is a heartfelt conversation about the challenges parents and families face during the holidays, advocating for allowing authenticity, and finding common ground, whether affirming relatives or conflicting opinions, and discovering strategies to approach these situations with love, understanding, and a sense of unity.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Stella O'Malley, a psychotherapist in Ireland. |
| 0:05.0 | And I'm Sasha Ayyad, an adolescent therapist in the United States. |
| 0:09.0 | Through in-depth interviews, personal stories, and psychological exploration, we probe the gender landscape within contemporary culture. |
| 0:18.0 | And we consider the implications of prioritizing personal identity over other aspects of the self. |
| 0:25.0 | This is the thinking person's take on gender. |
| 0:28.0 | Join us as we look at gender from a wider lens. |
| 0:36.0 | Hi Stella. Hello Sasha how are you? |
| 0:38.0 | I'm well how are you? |
| 0:40.0 | I see your you're the rock chick look. |
| 0:43.4 | Yeah, I have a new, a new hairdo and I'm sure Benjamin voice will comment about it because he's always |
| 0:50.7 | joking about how my hair is different in every single video on the internet. |
| 0:56.0 | So yeah. |
| 0:57.0 | A whole new look. |
| 0:58.0 | It's very, right? |
| 1:00.0 | Thank you. |
| 1:01.0 | It is very freeing and fun to have shorter hair and bings. |
| 1:05.0 | But I feel, I feel the need to press, I don't know, some music. |
| 1:09.0 | I think you need some headband in it. |
| 1:11.0 | Maybe all like... Maybe we're We'll like put in a little bit. |
| 1:15.0 | Our producer can throw in a little rock metal slash whatever music. |
| 1:21.0 | Well, we're revisiting the holidays today. |
| 1:25.0 | Yeah. |
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