I hit rock bottom, it felt like a brand new star.

Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things, delighted to tell you today that with us is the Melody

Beaty, a pioneering voice in self-help literature.

Melody is the author of many best-selling books, including Do Do Do, Co-dependent No More,

a number one New York Times best-seller which is sold over seven million copies, as well

as the language of Letting Go, playing it by heart, the grief club, and beyond co-dependency.

An updated edition of the best-selling modern classic which really screwed us up, okay?

Co-dependent No More is available now.

Melody lives in Southern California. Melody, welcome to We Can Do Hard Things.

Thank you for doing this wonderful show.

Oh, we're so excited. I have to tell you, I have read your book a long time ago because I'm a

recovering addict, so that was part of my whole shebang. But then recently, we all got it.

All three of us got it because our friend Jen Hatmaker was on the show and reminded us

of it in talking to us about how important it was for her. The book sat on our coffee table.

We just stared at it for about a week, and then I said, are you going to read it?

And Abby goes, I'm not reading it unless you read it.

Which I felt like was very co-dependent of us. But then I read it, and what I need you to

understand Melody is that I read the entire book as my sister. I pretended I was her.

Reading. And I had all of the arguments and the epiphanies that I imagined she would have

as I was reading. And I want you to know that I truly let your words sink in and change her deeply.

Through my reading. The comedian, Louis Anderson,

once said that I haven't really sold seven million copies of that book.

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