141. How to get over someone you can't stop thinking about

The Psychology of your 20s

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Mental Health, Self-improvement, Fitness, Education, Relationships, Science, Social Sciences, How To, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2023

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss:

The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure
The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past
The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited
Anxious attachment and overthinking
The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people
How to emotionally detach
The science of no-contact
10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about

If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about.

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