14. Why Am I Not Good Enough For My Mother?

Dear Little Me

Dawn Chitty

Childhood Trauma, Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Mother, Healing, Ptsd, Trauma, Personal Journals, Health & Fitness, Depression, Anxiety, Mental Health, Society & Culture, Women Podcast, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Help, Self Improvement

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🗓️ 1 February 2021

⏱️ 74 minutes

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Summary

Healing the mother wound.

Bianca describes her family as typically Italian. Lots of aunties and cousins with everyone up in everyone else's business, giving their opinions freely about how you were meant to live your life. Except when there were more serious issues involved. Like mental health, depression or the inability to cope. These things were usually swept under the carpet and actively not shared or discussed. Bianca's relationship with her mother was difficult. She felt from a young age that she was not good enough, that her brother was the favourite child. She felt distant from her mom who spoke of her in glowing terms publicly but was detached and demeaning in private. The mother daughter relationship can be so complex and Bianca's story is a true testament to that.

Bianca recommends A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle https://amzn.to/2KPM4Ko

Bianca is a Body Image Consultant, Confidence Coach and Mentor. You can find Bianca on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/biancahurstcoaching/

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0:00.0	There was one point there in my childhood where I remember saying to her I was only young and I said
0:06.9	I know that my brother is your favourite and she turned around and said to me yes he is, he is my
0:13.3	favourite and I remember feeling so hurt by that but I did say to her I remember one time you
0:20.0	told me that you know Mark my brother was was your favourite and she says I don't remember saying
0:27.1	that at all and I feel like there was an opportunity for her to acknowledge that and say I'm sorry
0:35.0	it didn't happen so therefore I felt like I don't want to have this conversation where I'm
0:42.0	unloading all of this grief and to make her feel bad because the last thing I wanted to do
0:46.4	is to make her feel bad but I did want to feel validated at the same time like okay you're
0:53.9	feeling these feelings it's okay I'm sorry that I did that to you or made you feel that way
1:00.6	it was very much she was still the victim oh I don't remember saying that and it completely
1:06.7	invalidated everything that I felt. Welcome to how my parents raised me I'm Dawn Chitty. When we are
1:19.2	born we arrive here as pure and perfect souls and the direction our life takes from that moment
1:26.9	is deeply connected to what our parents bring to our lives and what our parents bring to our
1:33.0	lives is deeply connected to what their parents brought to their lives and that's the cycle of
1:40.0	families. I have always craved connection with real and raw stories to understand what makes you
1:49.9	what makes you the absolutely unique human that you are. Stories are medicine for the soul they
1:58.0	can connect us and they can change the world and so in this podcast I'm listening to beautiful
2:05.4	souls sharing their story what happened to them how they got through and how they have healed
2:12.4	and thrived despite everything to arrive right here in this moment. Content warning if you are
2:21.3	triggered by the themes of this podcast please seek a help line in your city.
2:31.0	Hey beautiful souls thank you so much for joining me this week is all about the mother wound the
2:38.4	deep deep wound that we hold within us from the relationship that we might have had with our
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