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Counselling Tutor

139 – Counselling a Grieving Child

Counselling Tutor

Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes

Education, Courses

4.6 β€’ 636 Ratings

πŸ—“οΈ 1 February 2020

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Using Your Placement Effectively - Long-Term Counselling In episode 139 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes point out the many benefits of doing a counselling placement, beyond the obvious purpose of building your 100 hours' experience. 'Check-In with CPCAB' then covers working with a client long-term, and how this differs from the experience of providing short-term therapy. Finally, in 'Practice Matters', the presenters discuss child bereavement and how to prepare for counselling a grieving child ethically. Β * BACPAC practice management software for counsellors and psychotherapists is a sponsor of the Counselling Tutor Podcast. Get a 30-day free trial of BACPAC and a 30% discount by using the discount code CT2020 Using Your Placement Effectively (starts at 1.45 mins) Rory and Ken list the many potential gains from making maximum use of your training placement in a counselling agency. These may include: building your network (of peers and those more experienced than you) as a way of identifying possible work opportunities and referral routes for the future understanding how counselling organisations operate, for example by spending time with staff to learn about their roles and responsibilities - and getting fully acquainted with the agency's policies and procedures participating in group supervision, as an environment to gain different perspectives from both peers and facilitators watching out for training resources and opportunities, which may be advertised on a noticeboard at your agency's premises getting ideas and collecting primary data for your research project. Rory has written a handout on getting the most out of your counselling placement; this is available here, or through the Handouts Vault and Counselling Study Resource (CSR). Check-In with CPCAB: Long-Term Counselling (starts at 15.05 mins) Some counselling agencies limit the number of sessions per client to six to 12; this way of working is very different from places where counselling can be long-term and even open-ended. Rory talks to Ray van der Poel (Head of Business and Development) at CPCAB (Counselling & Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body) about the difference between short-term and long-term counselling, and what each asks of the therapist. Ray describes an experience during his own counselling placement in which he built relational depth with a client, noting that he really noticed this depth after 18 sessions. Long-term working - whilst being an immensely fulfilling experience for the long-term therapist - also brings its own potential hazards and challenges, for example in setting and holding appropriate boundaries and in monitoring self-disclosure in the counselling room. Rory and Ray note the vital nature of clinical supervision in navigating this ethically and professionally. Do listen out for a future discussion on the challenges of ending with a long-term client. In the meantime, you can find more information about CPCAB on its website. CPCAB is the UK's only awarding body run by counsellors for counsellors. Counselling a Grieving Child (starts at 26.15 mins) Evidence suggests that even babies and very young children experience grief following the death of a parent or sibling. Working with bereaved children is a specialist area that Rory and Ken suggest needs additional CPD above your counselling practitioner qualification. In particular, it is vital when counselling a grieving child to understand the stages of child development, as these relate closely to how children of different ages process their grief - for example the use of magical thinking by younger children. Rory also emphasizes the importance of using 'clean' language, by which he means tailoring your vocabulary and ways of speaking about grief to the age and developmental stage of the child in order to ensure that they can easily understand what you mean....

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0:00.0

Welcome to the counselling tutor podcast.

0:04.4

The must listen to podcast for students of counselling and psychotherapy.

0:10.6

Here are your hosts, Rory Lise Oakes and Ken Kelly.

0:15.7

Hi, I'm Rory and with me is Ken. How are you, Ken?

0:18.9

Exceptionally well, Rory, glad to be here.

0:21.1

You've tuned into episode 139 of the counselling tutor podcast.

0:26.3

We've got three topics that we hope that you will enjoy today.

0:29.6

The first one is for student counsellors that are going out on placement, already on placement,

0:34.7

and that is using your placement effectively. We then move into our

0:40.0

check-in with CPCAB, where we're speaking about working with long-term clients. And Rory,

0:46.2

you spoke with Ray Funderpool about this topic. What can we expect from checking with CPCAB today?

0:51.8

Well, I mean, Ray really, really did concisely outline the difference between working

0:57.4

in short-term therapy and working in long-term therapy.

1:01.0

And I think it might be certainly for our student colleagues, an interesting insight into

1:06.2

the difference between working with fixed term, maybe six or 12 sessions, I'm working in an open-ended way.

1:13.2

So it's really, really insightful.

1:16.4

One not to be missed there.

1:17.7

And we'll be ending episode 139 today, speaking about practice matters, which is our kind of section for our qualified practitioner.

1:26.2

And we're speaking about working with child

1:29.3

bereavement. So not a happy topic there but an important topic nonetheless and that's our job

1:34.6

I guess Rory here at counselling tutors to speak about the topics sometimes that are pretty

1:39.9

difficult to discuss but we'll stop we'll start off with our first topic, using placement effectively.

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