In this situation, the ego has put on a disguise of self-care and tricking us into thinking that we're doing the right things

when really we're doing the exact same pattern of avoiding feeling our emotions.

Do you know what was really happening inside my client?

She was working through a pattern of not

feeling enough. And to make up for the feeling of not enoughness, she poured all of these

self-care activities into this void, which was just another way of feeling not enough.

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Inner Child Podcast. Welcome back to the Inner Child podcast. My name is Gloria Zhang. I'm a therapist,

an author, and a relationship coach. And today we're going to be talking about the number one

reason why your self-care is actually making you feel even worse.

Now, I've decided to record this on a whim. I just got off a coaching call with my soulmaters.

So I'm on a bit of a role right now. I'm on a bit of that post coaching call hi. And this thing came up today that was so good

and so relatable to a lot of listeners. I thought it would make a perfect episode. And what

we're really talking about is how sometimes self-care can actually make us feel worse when we're

not doing the right kind of self-care or when it's not coming from the right place. So what

happened today was one of my clients is currently working on how to feel secure when her partner needs space, right?

Or how to feel safe and secure within herself, even when they're spending time apart.

And she was finding that even though she would wake up in the morning and would listen to a bunch of

podcast, you know, to a bunch of podcasts,

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