This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a

clinical psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, and I've been seeing

patients for over 25 years. I started this podcast because I wanted to reach out to those of you who might be very comfortable

in talking with psychological or emotional issues and just want another point of view.

Or to those of you who may have just recently been diagnosed with

depression or anxiety or bipolar disorder or you're having relationship problems

that you don't understand and you need information. And then there's

that third group. Those of you who might never consider darkening the door of a

therapist but are just curious enough to tune in and see what a therapist sounds like

and what this particular episode of self-work is all about.

In fact, this episode may just make that third group quite curious, because right now the title is,

when the going gets tough, the tough don't have to stay silent. And that's not what people think.

So we're going to be looking at the difference between self-composedure, stoicism, and self-destructiveness.

We're going to redefine a bit what should happen or what could happen when the

going gets tough. I was recently interviewed by a wonderful writer named

Rainsford Stouffer. She writes for the New York Times, The Atlantic. I was so honored to be involved.

She was describing a physical ailment that is causing her own life to deteriorate,

and yet she's been hiding it for years with the I'm fine response.

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