134. The Psychology of Style with Lauren Messiah
The Life Stylist
Luke Storey
4.7 • 2.1K Ratings
🗓️ 10 April 2018
⏱️ 99 minutes
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Summary
This episode is a long time coming – I’m sitting down with the catalyst of the Life Stylist podcast and my partner in crime at the School of Style, Lauren Messiah. (Oh... and we also dated for exactly five years.)
As a self-described “perpetual not-fitter-inner,” Lauren struggles to find a tribe of her own – but she’s always had style, her one constant.
If you dress the right way, you can fit in anywhere... but if you really own it, you can carve out your own space. That’s exactly what Lauren does, and that’s what makes her such an incredible entrepreneur.
As a personal stylist, Lauren is dedicated to helping women fundamentally change their relationship with clothing so that they can take out the BS and completely transform themselves, from the outside in. What does your wardrobe communicate to other people? Hell, what does it communicate to yourself? How does our style affect our identity? Our energy?
It’s not about being cute or sexy – it’s about getting what you want and living your best life!
–Luke
Topics Discussed In This Episode:
- How Lauren kicked my ass and got me to start the podcast
- Our five-year relationship and multiple attempts at couples therapy (including a stay at the Onsite Workshops)
- How we’ve evolved since ending our relationship
- Lauren’s first fashion memory
- Being a perpetual not-fitter-inner
- Growing up multiracial & feeling like you don’t have a tribe
- Using style to carve out her own space
- Being a voice for people who feel misunderstood
- Going to fashion school and then not becoming a designer
- Inadequacies in education
- Moving from the east coast to the west coast
- Becoming a stylist and finding the School of Style
- Blogging about fashion in 2005
- Why Lauren stopped celebrity styling & started personal styling
- Being a servant VS serving
- Style being a huge pain point for so many people
- How a job with Nickelodeon changed Lauren’s life trajectory
- Clothing as a way of communicating your values
- Lauren’s evolving brand & relationship with style
- Living your best life
- Putting yourself in badass mode
- Being the Oprah of fashion
- The science of getting dressed
- How men can represent their true self on the outside
- Lauren’s current self-help journey
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| 0:00.0 | The Lifestylist, Episode 134, featuring Lauren Messiah. |
| 0:26.1 | I'm Luke Story, a former celebrity fashion stylist and founder of School of Style. |
| 0:37.4 | For the past 20 years, I've been relentlessly dedicated to my deepest passion, designing the ultimate lifestyle based on the most powerful principles of health and spirituality. |
| 0:42.2 | The Lifestyleist podcast is a show dedicated to sharing my discoveries and the experts behind them with you. |
| 0:53.9 | Hey, you out there in the cold, come on in, sit by the fire, kickback, put your feet up. You're |
| 0:58.8 | welcome. This is the Lifestyleist podcast. I'm glad you're here. Mi Casa is Su Casa. My name is Luke |
| 1:04.6 | Story, and I'm here to bring you another inspiring episode all about the psychology of style |
| 1:09.9 | featuring our guest and my friend and business |
| 1:12.7 | partner Lauren Messiah. But before we jump into that fashion party, let's talk about next week's |
| 1:18.1 | episode number 135 with the legendary Mr. Dell Bigtree, where we're going to be talking about |
| 1:23.7 | the safety or lack thereof of vaccines. To make sure that you don't miss next week's episode |
| 1:28.6 | or any episode to follow, all you have to do is make sure that you click subscribe on your |
| 1:33.2 | podcast player and boom, chala, they're going to appear magically on your device. Okay, I've got a |
| 1:40.3 | couple upcoming events also. We've got Soho House, Little Beach House, Malibu on April 24th with Eli Block. |
| 1:46.4 | We're going to be talking about orgasmic meditation. |
| 1:49.2 | And then I'll be speaking at Paleo Effects, April 27th through 29th in Austin, Texas. |
| 1:53.9 | If you want to come hang out with me in person, I'd love to see you. |
| 1:57.7 | You can always find my events at luke story.com forward slash events. |
| 2:01.9 | All right. So this episode has been a long time coming. I'm sitting down with the catalyst |
| 2:06.4 | for the lifestylus podcast and my partner in crime for many years at School of Style, Lauren |
| 2:11.2 | Messiah. Oh, and we also dated for about five years and you're going to learn more about in this |
| 2:15.0 | episode. So Lauren's an LA-based personal stylist, |
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