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Hello and Happy Monday. Welcome back to the Morning Health Swive Podcast.

I'm your host, Jordan. If you're new, every single week we're discussing all things sex, marriage, the realities of both of those experiences together.

And the ups, the downs, the shit-talking, the giggles, we're going to not take things personally and not sugarcoat things.

And while I'm being brutally honest, I am totally going to be a solution oriented and do my damnedest to get you to understand your spouse's POV in order for you to connect that result and more intimacy.

The physical touch intimacy, the connection intimacy, all the good, pleasurable things.

Because life is too damn short not to be fucking getting off. Can I get an aim and aim?

Okay, I have a little story time, a little personal experience that I experienced this week.

And I'm like, I'm going to tell the podcast because I think this could help somebody.

Anybody who's ever related with the feeling of performance anxiety and now maybe for women, maybe just in a funk or you're all up in your head, whether it's stress for whatever reason, and that headspace is taking away from you being able to show up for your man sexually.

And it's almost like, now it kind of feels like a chore and a burden and you don't even want it to.

You're like, why do I feel like this? Like, I hate this feeling. Can you relate? I wish I could hear answers. Can you relate?

Yes! Or no. But guys, I feel like we just call it performance anxiety instead of the mind-fuck. But that's still a mind-fuck too.

I know you have things to get hard, things to do. Maybe she wants you to be dominant and assertive and push her against a wall and you're all in your head and you're like, I need to perform. I need to magic mic this girl.

I don't know if I have an enemy. Do I have an enemy? My story I'm about to tell you. What I did can be applied for either the male I just described or the female I described.

This tactic, this tip, the solution that got me out of my headspace and my result was really great, really great, delicious sex.

When I didn't even think I was in the mood, yeah, yeah. So it's a hot tip and I am passing it on. And maybe it sounds simple, but sometimes we need reminders of the simple ways to just bring us right back to the moment.

We aren't robbing ourselves from them. Anxiety is a bitch and it takes us out of the moment and I think I literally have an anxiety disorder and I'm raw-dogging life because I don't want to take anxiety medication from a pharmacy because it just makes you a zombie if you know you fucking know.

And she's an anxious bitch. She's an anxious bitch. And because sometimes it's so much, I was like, I need to figure out ways and I find working out meditation, going on a run, journaling. There's many ways I've learned throughout my life to bring myself to the center, to center myself, to decompress if I'm feeling stressed, boxed breathing, breath work.

The fucking breath, the key, the key people to bringing you back to the center. People are like, was it their story? Didn't Jordan say she was going to tell us a story? Where's the story? It's been four minutes? Where's this? Okay. So the other night I went on a date night and I will preface this by saying the week leading up to the date night was rough.

I wasn't feeling very good. I was feeling not super optimistic. I was feeling blue, a little heavy, a little griefy. It was like, not my best week. Not my best moment, but I was like, date night, it's going to bring it back because we were doing something we were going to an arcade. And we're going to love drinks and play games. And that's so a Derek and Jordan like to do together. We like to play.

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