133 How to Heal from Sorrow and Grief Part 2

The Place We Find Ourselves

Adam Young

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🗓️ 27 February 2023

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

This is part 2 in a series of episodes on how to engage our sorrow and grief in a way that brings healing. The focus today is on the four conditions needed to allow us to work with sorrow and grief. First, we need to own that our sorrows and griefs matter and should be taken seriously. Second, we need to gradually move from a posture of contempt toward our sorrow and grief to a posture of compassion and kindness and welcome. Third, we need to find a few people who can be the village for us… this will allow us to risk sharing our sorrow and grief with other people. And, fourth, we need to move our bodies in a way that allows for the integration and release of our sorrow and grief.

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0:00.0	You are listening to the place we find ourselves podcasts.
0:03.8	I'm Adam Young and this is part two in a series of episodes about how to engage sorrow
0:10.8	and grief in a way that brings healing.
0:14.0	Let me begin by briefly summarizing the first episode.
0:18.4	For most modern people, the place we find ourselves is in a land where grief and sorrow
0:23.9	are unwelcome.
0:26.4	In other words, most of us don't feel like the people around us can bear the depth of
0:34.2	our sorrow and grief.
0:36.0	And since we don't want to risk our sense of belonging, our sense of acceptance, we hide
0:41.6	our sorrow and grief.
0:43.8	But our sorrows, our griefs are real.
0:48.5	And by grief, I don't merely mean sadness about the loss of a loved one.
0:53.6	There are other types of sorrow and grief.
0:56.5	And we talked about some of those in the last episode.
0:59.3	For example, there have been moments in your life in which you needed to be seen, soothed,
1:06.4	understood, validated, cared for, comforted, and you were not.
1:11.5	Okay, your body carries grief about those very real losses.
1:19.2	Then we began to address the question, all right, so what are we supposed to do?
1:24.0	With the sorrow and the grief inside.
1:26.7	Because the reality is that most of us are so focused on what I called the ascent in
1:32.3	the last episode, part one, we're so focused on the ascent that we deny our sorrows.
1:39.0	And when that doesn't work, we numb them as best we can.
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