And I think whether your friend having this question or another person trying to see, like,

do I get back together with an X, is you need to look at what a common mistake people,

why people stay is something called sunk cost fallacy.

And it's a term used mostly in the stock market where we keep

putting money into a bad deal. But we do this across the board. We buy tickets to a movie. It sucks in

the first 15 minutes. You watch the whole thing because, hey, I already bought the ticket. We do this in

relationships. Well, are you invested, you know, therapy, this time, like, oh, but there were some

changes.

Like, I invested. And so we keep staying because of the past investment. And that is a thinking

error. So instead, what you do is you say, okay, I can't ever get my past investment back,

the money, the time, the love, the, yes, whatever. If I was to make this decision

right now today, knowing what I know, not being able to recruit my past investment, and I'm

going to optimize for present and future value, would I choose this person? I think that's a really

healthy, helpful way of looking at it so that you're making a decision with the data that you have

and you're not just hanging on to the pass or to hope.

Hmm. What's up everybody?

Welcome back to Shooter's Got a Shoot.

I am your host, Erica Spira.

And we have an amazing episode this week.

I am so excited for this guest.

We have Amy Chan on the podcast, the author

of Breakup Boot Camp, who also now is doing in-person breakup boot camps for like a weekend,

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