We've all been in an argument where we are so sure we're right. We'll go to great lengths to stand our ground and prove that we are right and our partner is wrong. News flash, this is not helpful for our relationships. Learn the tools to defuse a situation where you or your partner thinks they are right and an argument begins. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Recognizing that when we argue we often go away from the content of the argument and go toward feelings. How to go beneath the content of an argument to discover the trigger for the conflict. Why arguments often begin with the relationship we have with ourselves and not our partner. How to wait and have a productive conversation when we're not in an escalated emotional state. Validating your partners feelings to have a productive conversation and create a stronger relationship. And much more! Ellen Gendelman is a psychotherapist and professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. She cherishes her own roles as wife, mother and grandmother. A veteran educator and motivational speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Ellen is excited to have recently authored her second book ‘When Ice Cream Is Not Enough.’ Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/132 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling with always being right? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices