131. How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy

We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle & Audacy

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 15 September 2022

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

1. How to embody your authority while also validating your kid’s experience. 2. The #1 strategy for building resilience. 3. Why consequences and punishments backfire and don’t work. 4. How to sit with your child on the “benches” of their emotions. 5. One thing you can say to your kids to build connection in any circumstance. About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and mom of three, named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine. She’s rethinking the way we raise our children – empowering parents to feel sturdier and more equipped to manage the challenges of parenting. Dr. Becky is founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place; author of Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, which is out this month. And her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.” TW: @goodinside IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. I am so excited because we have Dr. Becky back
0:19.7	here who is solving our lives. And we're going to answer some of the pod waters questions
0:26.3	today about parenting kids, but also about just repairing ourselves and how to human differently
0:32.1	and with a little less shame and more compassion and joy. Sister, you were talking about something
0:40.5	pretty cool that you wanted to ask Dr. Becky about to start us off with. Yes, I am fascinated,
0:46.7	Dr. Becky, by your complete reframe on consequences and punishment and the way that you talk about
0:58.8	actions being moments and consequences versus skills. Can you just walk us through that because it was
1:06.0	it was mind bending to me? Yeah, so let's take a situation like um my kids I don't know jumping
1:15.0	on the couch and maybe it's like a couch in my house that I wouldn't let them jump on. I actually
1:18.5	don't have that couch, but I need people to have nice couchs. So they're jumping on the couch
1:22.7	and I'm like get off the couch or maybe I say it nice and I'm like hey can you get off the couch?
1:27.3	I'm laughing thinking about the will Ferrell's kid of saying get off the shed. I don't know any
1:30.8	of you. Can you please get off the shed or can you please get off the couch and they don't, right?
1:36.0	So my four-year-old like even looks at me, you know the way a four-year-old will look at you
1:39.7	and then go back to like yes like I double dare you. Yes, exactly and they keep going great. So
1:46.2	what would consequence punishment would be something like um you don't get desert tonight,
1:52.4	that's it you don't get desert tonight, right? Something like kind of random that I'm making away.
1:57.7	Right, which also I'm going to regret later. Exactly. Exactly. We're all be like does this
2:03.6	count as desert? Maybe it doesn't find you get this, but it's not really desert. You get a
2:06.8	waffle or such a mess or always taking away screen time, which by the way is the only good time.
2:13.4	100% sort of times you're the best parents when your kids are watching screen time. It's your
2:18.0	best parenting moment you're taking away. That would be consequence punishment for a quote bad
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