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A few years ago, I ran into a woman who had been my dean in medical school and she was wearing

this absolutely beautiful ring.

This woman was very accomplished and very self-possessed and just confident.

She was mature.

She was probably in her early 60s at the time.

And I said, wow, that is a really gorgeous ring. And I don't know why,

maybe some kind of like weird programming

that I still have even though I think of myself

as a feminist, my weird like gender role programming comes in

every now and then from being born in 1966 I guess and I said oh did your

husband give that to you as a gift?

And she said, no, I bought it for myself.

And I was like, wow, that's really cool.

And she said that when she was in college,

she went home for her first holiday vacation to her roommate's house.

And her roommate's mom was just this badass, empowered kind of feminist who actually

sat the girls down one night. were chatting and having tea and whatever and the mom said to her look I just want to impart some wisdom to you guys and one of the things that the mom said was don't wait for someone else to give you what you want to give yourself.

And this was actually really revelatory for me because I realized that in my own marriage,

which has now been for 32 years I often

will expect something from my partner that I could actually do for myself but in some kind of like emotional game that I'm

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