Welcome to the Mary's Cup of Tea podcast. I'm your host, Mary Jolkowski. I'm an author, speaker,

an all-around self-love advocate. And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.

Hello, myself lovers, and welcome to the Mary's Cup of Tea podcast. Today I have Dr. Alexander

H. Solomon with a PhD who is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology

at Northwestern University. She's also a licensed clinical psychology at the Family Institute

at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today,

the creator and host of Reimagining Love Podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back,

How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want, which released in February

of 2020, published by New Harbinger, and Loving Bravely, 20 lessons of self-discovery to help you get the love you want, which was also published by New Harbinger and Loving Bravely, 20 lessons of self-discovery to help you get the love you

want, which was also published by New Harbinger in 2017. She was featured on the Today Show,

and you can visit her at Dr. Alexandra Solomon.com. Thank you so much for being here. Welcome to the show.

Thank you, Mary, for having me. It's a pleasure to be here.

Well, as I told you before, we started recording, there's obviously so much, I mean, all of life is about our relationships.

And my original questions were trying to touch on everything, being single and dating and finding a partner and getting married

and divorced and getting older, like everything under the sun was my list of questions.

And then I decided to make this episode very personally motivated and dive a little bit deeper

into long-term relationships in particular,

especially because at this time of my life, I am about to get married, and I am nervous as fuck.

Truly.

I hear that.

Yeah.

Yeah, so on that note, I wanted to start with something that you posted a while back and I'm an avid

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