Hello and welcome to another episode of the Markov's podcast, a solo episode.

I've been really feeling into when I get an intuitive hit that I need to record something

that's flowing through me, something that is, I want to say triggering me, but that's

probably another right word in, in liveening me, giving me energy, making me passionate.

Although you might be listening to this during the holiday season, this is true at all times,

all seasons of our life because I think what I'm going to talk to you about is correlated

to family, correlated to historical relationships and historical patterns that start, you know,

the moment that we go into people pleasing mode, the moment that we go into, you know,

sort of adapting, chameleoning, I don't know if that's a term verbalized, I just turned

that into a, chameleonizing yourself, which is really shapeshifting in order to adapt to

the environment, which is very much a survival strategy that we develop as children to be

able to be who we need to be in order to feel safe.

And so if you're not familiar with when that occurs, you know, it's usually between the

ages around zero and eight that we are sent an immense amount of messages, both from our

families, our media, our culture, from society, from our churches that are saying, this is

the type of person you need to be, these are the life paths that you need to choose.

This is what it means to be your gender.

This is what it means to what job you're supposed to pick, what education you're supposed

to choose.

This is what a fulfilling, or one that's going to make you enough money to take care of

your family or to be independent.

And so all these messages were just constantly inundated with.

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