124: How to Feel Secure Again After Your Trust Has Been Destroyed

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 20 July 2021

⏱️ 16 minutes

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When someone’s betrayed or hurt us—especially when we didn’t see it coming—it’s hard to avoid the lack of trust that latches on to us and shadows us into our next relationship.

Is there an antidote to this? Is it possible to regain trust after heartbreak?

In this episode, I share 8 rules you’ll want to write on sticky notes and keep handy whenever you need a reminder.

As always, I’d love it if you left me a comment letting me know your thoughts - email [email protected]

Here for you, Matthew x

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0:00.0	What if they're in this situation and the person I'm with happens to find this other person attractive and this other person finds my person attractive and now there's some under
0:14.0	Current of flirtation. There's something going on there some unspoken energy
0:20.7	That the two of them are feeding off of the ultimately is disrespectful of my relationship with my person
0:29.4	The ultimately is a is a betrayal of what we have and of me. That's the part we're afraid of
0:50.8	For anyone who has been through a relationship or a situation where they have been hurt betrayed
0:55.9	Lied to had the rug pulled out from under them unexpectedly lack of trust becomes the natural
1:03.6	Corollary to this scenario
1:06.3	We then go into the next part of our lives
1:09.9	Fearing that it will happen again and this is especially true in situations where there were things that happened to us that we didn't see coming
1:18.1	And we then live with this insecurity that my god if that can happen anything can happen
1:23.6	I'll never be safe even in situations where I thought I was safe at any point the
1:30.3	Unthinkable could happen and that rocks our fundamental sense of security in life
1:35.4	It can make us feel completely untethered and it can certainly have the effect of making us not even want to invest in a new situation
1:43.6	So what is the antidote to that?
1:45.6	I wanted to make a video a practical video
1:48.5	About how to deal with our own trust issues so that we can be more at peace
1:55.0	So here are eight rules of life for you if you're suffering from a lack of trust right now
2:03.7	Number one give an amount of time and energy you are willing to lose
2:08.9	Some of our problems with trusting come from the fact that
2:12.1	We feel like the stakes are too high if this person ends up betraying us
2:16.9	What if I end up losing all of this time and energy and all of this love I've given yet again?
2:23.0	To be betrayed or hurt but the catch 22 is that in the beginning we have to give some energy
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