122 | Making Friends with Adult ADHD

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

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4.7 • 919 Ratings

🗓️ 28 June 2016

⏱️ 89 minutes

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122| Making Friends with Adult ADHD Please join us as we welcome Alex Hofeldt back to the show. Some of you may recognize him from the Beautiful Dust Specks Podcast. This week Eric and Alex discuss the effect ADHD has on Making friends and social situations, such as remembering names, conversation, and general awkwardness. For people with ADHD, life can be very difficult when in social situations. This is even more so the case in small to large groups of people. We cannot expect everyone we know and interact with to factor our “condition” into everything we say think or feel. People are generally impatient when it comes to these things and for those who are interested in fitting in, this can be a very disheartening circumstance. Forgetting names is common and people can sometimes feel they are not regarded highly enough by you for you to take the time to actually remember their name. Blurting out can be considered rude in that it is generally taken as an interruption. Sometimes people with ADHD are just different and therefore misunderstood. This can even be the case with other people with ADHD. Those of us with ADHD do tend to stand out and it can be frustrating when one day our peers depend on us for entertainment and the next day just can’t seem to deal with us. Some of us have been in a similar circumstance when we are treated as the court jester among our “friends”, as if we are there for the sole purpose of their amusement when they want us to perform. Eric Tivers (host of ADHD reWired) was kind enough to try to help Alex with his specific problems in this area. Alex mentions many of the problems as stated above and goes further with some more specific things. Eric offered Alex what I felt was some really sound advice. It was not just general tips we have all heard before. It was catered to his specific problems, which is what an ADHD coach should always do. Alex was kind enough to agree to come back on the show to discuss how his problem has changed as a result of the coaching Eric provided him. Please stay tuned to ADHD reWired for the follow-up with Alex. On a personal note: “During this episode I found myself able to identify with Alex. I felt and still feel a strong empathy for him. I was reminded of the being in similar situations during certain times in my life. Alex held nothing back and was very forthcoming in the things he shared. I am happy to know the ADHD community has a person like Alex in it. His honesty was inspiring and I was reminded of the reason for my own commitment to spread awareness about one of the most treatable mental disorders we know of.” T.

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0:00.0	Hey guys if you're listening to this the week of June 27th, right now we have a one week only ends July 1st, a $700 sign up event for this
0:11.6	falls ADHD rewired coaching and accountability group.
0:15.2	This price will not be offered again.
0:18.2	This ends on July 1st which is this Friday if we're listening to this the week.
0:23.1	This comes out. Go to ADHD rewired it.com to learn more and to schedule your free consultation
0:28.8	and registration call with me.
0:31.3	at ADHD rewired.com.
0:34.0	Just looking at it from an angle of is this normal?
0:36.4	Like I feel weird but no one else seems to be feeling weird like is this it?
0:39.7	Like we just stand here and nod our heads to the music a little bit.
0:43.0	When in my brain, I'd love to be talking about something.
0:45.7	And if we're at like a bonfire,
0:47.0	I'd love to talk about something of substance,
0:49.1	you know, something of whatever.
0:50.6	Not everyone wants to hear it, you know,
0:51.9	the concept of, you gotta find out that people have ears to hear it you know the concept of you got to find out
0:53.3	the people of ears to hear what you want to say and I either try and get into
0:57.2	the I either go where I try and get into the conversation I usually turn it somewhere
1:01.2	and then if they give me a little like give me an inch I'll start taking a mile and then they're like all right change the subject like I don't want to talk about it this intensely. 80-Hd-D, Rewired Episode 122.
1:19.5	This is the show designed to help those of us who have really good intentions and a slightly wandering
1:25.7	attention. My name is Eric Tivers. I'm a licensed clinical social worker, coach and consultant.
1:32.4	We know that starting can be the hardest parts so let's get
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