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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

122: How Much Structure Should Kids Have in the Summer?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting, Mental Health

4.7 • 822 Ratings

🗓️ 6 June 2023

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

While summer is a great time to be more laid back, a parent writes in asking whether kids should really have less structure in the summer. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk through key questions parents face once the school year ends: What's a reasonable bedtime - and how much sleep should kids be getting? What's fair to expect in terms of chores? And how much time should kids spend with digital devices, especially in light of the new, worrisome report from the U.S. Surgeon General? Their conversation offers both detailed answers and a broad perspective on the value of linking privileges and responsibilities. ________________ Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. AVAILABLE NOW: The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Dr. Lisa Damour. Available at www.DrLisaDamour.com and everywhere books are sold. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources:  https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by:  Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com

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0:00.0

Hi, I'm Rina Ninean and this is Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.

0:10.9

It's a podcast to help parents better understand their kids. Dr. Lisa DeMore, a psychologist with three

0:17.2

decades of experience, and the author of three New York Times best-selling parenting

0:21.9

books takes your questions. Both of us are moms ourselves, and we're eager to hear from you.

0:27.1

So send us your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisadamore.com and join our community by following us

0:33.5

on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter at Ask Lisa Podcast.

0:39.5

Episode 122. How much structure should kids have in the summer?

0:47.1

All right. My brothers' kids in Texas are out of school. We've got a couple more weeks left.

0:53.0

Oh my gosh, Lisa, get me off this train. I know.

0:57.6

I think I've said this before, but I spend all fall trying to get the routines in place

1:03.5

for family life. And then as soon as I have them in place, I feel thoroughly oppressed by them.

1:07.9

Like, I'm like, oh, God, these routines are coming. I want to be done with it.

1:11.3

I want to be off the clock.

1:12.5

You know, I just keep thinking about the summers the past few years and how unpredictable.

1:15.7

And I have no plans and this and that.

1:17.3

This year, everything is structured.

1:18.6

I'm like, I need everybody to be in something, doing something, because it's just,

1:22.8

it's spinning.

1:23.5

But I love that we can now talk about the summer. We got this beautiful letter from a mom,

1:29.8

kind of asking about sleep and what to do and structure in the summer. I thought this was

1:34.7

just beautiful. Let me read this to you. Hello, Lisa. I can't thank you enough for covering such a

1:40.1

wide range of topics on your podcast. I truly enjoy listening to all the episodes and have gained

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