Welcome everyone to the Love Life podcast. I am Stephen Hasse joined remotely from LA

with Matthew Hasse. I'm sat here in the UK and he's flown off back to his new homeland,

the United States. Hello, Matthew. I miss you, Steve, but I really love my house.

It's a conflict. It's a conflict. We did spend a good month or so together, so we had a lovely time

frolicking in the English sun. Probably more time than you need with me. You're probably ready for me

to go home, weren't you? I'll take what I can get these days. I'll give me a

rep. When I'm there in London, I'm the one who's needy and begging for your time, mate, so don't

give me all that. I just make myself available whenever Matt's got any free time. That is, I tell you

right now, that's a ball face lie. That is a lie. Do not gaslight me on the Love Life podcast in front

of everybody. I don't have it. Well, put up with it. I will not. Well, maybe gaslighting will be one

of your answers for this question, Matthew, because we throw out to our listeners the question,

what are two of your top non-negotiables in a partner? Now, obviously, this list could get very long,

which is why I kept it to two, because I didn't want people to overdo it. And I was interested

in what people would put at the top. And there's some interesting answers. There's some insightful

answers. And there's a few recurring ones that I'm interested in. What I also want to ask you about

is what you think of the idea of non-negotiables of thinking like, these are must-nots I will have in

dating and how much you should be cognizant of them when you go into dating. Does that sound good?

Well, there have to be things that you say, I just, I suppose we're all nuanced, right? We're

certain things. We might be, we might, I say, yeah, I don't know. Life is in the grey areas,

isn't it? It's lived in the grey areas. So I don't know. When I think of non-negotiables,

a relationship by definition is a lot of negotiating of the kinds of qualities that, you know, we're

not necessarily, we don't love that we didn't sign up for those things, but how much of it can we

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